Dudes in need of dudelyness...

[hannahdude]

going 'walter' is totally dude, i think, as long as your reactions are authentic and i believe you are a authentic, deep feeling man, mang.
peace to you and your lady-friend always.

[Caesar dude]

Thank you Hannah dude. Kind words.

This the letter word for word:

Dear Chantelle

We hope that you are making progress in your recovery. As we haven't seen you for a while we would like to meet with you to see how you are.

If possible would it be convenient to visit you on,

Date: Monday 23rd January 2012
Time: 11:00 am
Your Home

If this is not possible please do not hesitate to contact me.

Kind regards.

Lisa XXXXXXXX

PEOPLE SERVICE MANAGER

This woman actually knows Chantelle's situation. So it's not as if she doesn't understand the situation and has just generated a standard letter!

When Chit's mum called her to try and explain that Chantelle couldn't possibly "meet her" and certainly in her home (where the letter was addressed) the woman was extremely pushy and tried to bully her into arranging a meeting at her mums house!

I told the woman(amongst other things) that I will meet her in her office at a time of my choosing and when her manager is present.

Still fucking angry!!!

[meekon5]

Here's one!

I lost my dude completely today and my inner Walter came flying out,

Chantelle was a checkout girl at ASDA. They sent her a letter saying they wanted to meet with her to discuss her progress as she hasn't been to work for a while! They sent it to her address and her mum opened it...I went fucking ballistic for 20 minutes this morning on the phone to this dumb bitch. MY two staff left the office but could still hear me with the door closed half way up the yard!

I ripped her a new arsehole and dudes I'm not sorry!

I don't blame you.

The thing you do next is write a complaint to the managing director. Now we all know the managing director won't actually see the letter but the army of flunkies around them to protect them from such contact will make the life of whoever you name in the letter living hell.

[Caesar dude]

Fucking hell your a genius! I thought I'd see if I could find the MD of ASDA so googled it and here's what I found! http://www.ceoemail.com/

I have got his email address (my preferred method of contact) and am just about to send out my shitogramme right now!

Cheers dude!

[meekon5]

I'm not a man to piss off.

I bear a grudge for a long, long time.

And am very very resourceful.

Probably best to write the e-mail then leave it for a day and have a look at it then send it when your happy with it.

[Caesar dude]

Probably! I hit send before I came back here. I've pm'd you!

[brother_erwin]

caesar dude,
have only just now read your up-date. I'm very sorry to read about the complications and the shit from her employer.
I would like to express my deep respect and admiration for you, for how you stand by your special lady. It's wonderful how you care for her.
Take care, man, and of yourself, too!
BE

[Caesar dude]

Hey there Brother Erwin.

Thank you for your thoughts and caring towards me and my very special lady.

I'm gathering myself dude. I've been in some fairly awful places over the last year. I've finally applied myself to my living room and today I now have a space that I could allow another human being into...other than my son who accepts me totally. (just as well dudes)

Chantelle had an annual check up on the 28th Jan and physically couldn't have been in better shape. I was delighted....that was Friday at 11:00 am. I was with her Friday evening..all good.. I went to see her on Saturday morning and was immediately concerned as her breathing wasn't right and she was slightly off...I made them call the GP (which the nursing staff were reluctant to do as it was a weekend) Turned out she had a chest infection...this is what will kill her if she doesn't improve.

It took a week before they would prescribe antibiotics again at my insistence!

I feel like I have to fight for  everything.

The other night because she was so poorly I stayed long past my normal hour and was quietly holding her hand and watching a movie with the lights down low as they would be when It was her sleep time. When the door was burst open and the main lights turned on by a "carer" who was talking loudly over his shoulder! I again went ballistic and tore him a new arsehole...wtf!!? This is me a dudes dude..I don't do angry and I tend not to get upset...I explained to him that maybe Chantelle is not aware of everything that is going on around her but she is a human being and certainly deserves more respect than that and is this what they do every night when I'm not there to see it?

Sheesh... am I wrong? Am I? I'm beginning to doubt myself!

My lady doesn't have a voice right now and I know I have to stand up for her...but I feel like I'm doing it all the time at the moment.

I'm tired dudes...so very very tired.

Peace.

[DigitalBuddha]

Sheesh... am I wrong? Am I? I'm beginning to doubt myself!

No, dude, you're not wrong.

[Leninrocks244]

You're not wrong at all, dude. That paraquat crossed the line. He upsets a peaceful moment with you and your special lady, it's perfectly acceptable for him to be in a world of pain.

[meekon5]

Sheesh... am I wrong? Am I? I'm beginning to doubt myself!

My lady doesn't have a voice right now and I know I have to stand up for her...but I feel like I'm doing it all the time at the moment.

I'm tired dudes...so very very tired.

Unfortunately what happens when we are not around to see it in hospitals is appalling. here in the UK there have been a number of cases to do with "retirement homes".

At th risk of going all left wing on you, this is what happens in a capitalist society, those without voices become regarded as of a lesser worth. They are too easily pushed down to the bottom of the pile, and left there to try to fend for themselves.

You are not wrong.

I can see your worry that this is how they have been acting when no-one else is around, like any of these things it is a basic human right to expect to be treated in a certain way no matter what your condition is.

Keep strong (as hard as that is), you know we are all behind you dude.

[Caesar dude]

I've got a video camera disguised as an alarm clock...I'm going to set it up in her room on Saturday. I hate to do this but I want to see exactly what happens through the night.

It's motion sensitive and very discreet.

I'm sure my fears are groundless but then again.....

[Leninrocks244]

I honestly don't blame you. It's always good to keep an eye open.

[milnie]

just be careful you are not opening yourself up to litigation should you use footage from the camera as proof of maltreatment. no doubt they would claim use of concealed monitoring equipment not under ownership of the hospice breaches various conditions and staff rights and could risk failure of life support equipment (similar to the mobile phones on planes nonsense).
last thing we want is for you to get into any legal arguement that could jeapordise the care. Is she in a NHS care facility or private?

[Caesar dude]

If I found any sort of maltreatment then justice would not be sought be through any court my friend, and no litigation would be necessary...other than from the injured parties.

It would be meted out swift and sure and effective.

I'm not looking to use the footage in a court of law...although I'm sure that would be used in my defence as I would keep the camera rolling.

It's a private care facility and Chantelle is a "client" everything in the room belongs to "us" ie Chantelle her family and I.

No legal arguments would ensue unless I were to be sued for brutality.