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Quote from: Boston Rockbury on January 25, 2013, 12:48:17 PM
The devil's in the detail here though dudes. Nobody's saying men shouldn't pay.

But should they have to pay for someone else's child as they do in California?

Should they have child support set at their 'maximum earnings potential' when they want a more relaxed lifestyle?
That wouldn't be enforcable within a marriage, why is the bar set higher and biting deeper when you are divorced?

The rules of gravity are fixed by nature but the rules of divorce are fixed by people. If they aren't right we can change them.

Hmmm. There's food for thought.
My advice.
Don't fuck up.

Definitely not always fair. True story: I know a guy named Greg who was happily married. Two kids, 2 and 4, nice little girls. One day the wife just packs up and leaves while he's at work. She made no attempts to tell Greg or her friends she was unhappy.

She doesn't call or write anyone, not her kids, her family, her friends, no one. Greg goes on with life, getting help from his & her parents.

Twelve years later the bitch comes back. She makes no apologies but files for custody for her daughters. The elder girl hates the mother and the younger doesn't really know her. She gets full custody and over three quarters of Greg's pay goes to child support. Now, Greg doesn't get angry over the money, but she gets the kids while he gets one weekend a month if she feels like it?

Now that's some bullshit.

Quote from: BikerDude on January 25, 2013, 12:24:23 PM
Bottom line watch where you put yer Johnson. I was told that from the time I was a boy.

Careful ain't enough. The options are abstinence or risk. Just as in everything else in life, really.

I live in an isolated town in the mountains, forty miles or more in every direction from the nearest towns and more than a hundred miles from the nearest shopping mall. A nice, safe, friendly place where you can count on your neighbors if disaster strikes. Some time ago some kind of scientist dudes were doing some kind of science shit at a lake that's considered nearby by local standards, above 10,000 feet in elevation, and found in the water a radioactive isotope whose only known terrestrial source is a factory in China. Specifically, the smokestacks of that factory, as the product of that factory doesn't leave China.

So maybe on the day that particle and some number of like particles fell from the sky, there was a dude up there fishing... A dude who never smoked or even entered a place where smoking was allowed, who never worked in a job where there were respiratory risk factors, who exercised regularly, watched his diet, ate only whole foods and fish and game from this seemingly pristine environment. There are dudes like that around here, too. And maybe he inhaled one or three of those particles that flew here from fucking China, man, and has since died of lung cancer.

Don't we all hear that kind of shit fairly often? Some random person never smoked a cigarette in his life, never lived in a polluted city, et cetera, dies of lung cancer. Some fuckin' guy who was a health nut his whole life dropped dead from a heart attack in his forties. And so on.

Careful ain't enough. The bumper sticker is correct: Shit Happens. It's easy enough to believe you've got this shit wired while it's not happening to you, but the simple truth is that there ain't a one of us who's got this shit wired. The world we live in is interconnected in myriad ways we don't stand a chance of fully or even adequately comprehending.

Way back when it was my shit to worry about I did my homework. Apparently that fucked up law in Kaliphonia is rooted in the decision that it's better to fuck that one guy really, really hard than to fuck the whole of the state just a little bit. Yeah, he and his wife are Asian and the child is black, but, ya know, fuck that guy anyway. Yeah, the guy has rock solid undeniable proof that his wife was fucking the pool man, who is black, but fuck that guy anyway. Yeah, genetic testing proves that he was not involved in conceiving the child, but fuck that guy anyway.

Shit Happens. Careful ain't enough.

Quote from: RighteousDude on January 25, 2013, 03:36:06 PM

Quote from: BikerDude on January 25, 2013, 12:24:23 PM
Bottom line watch where you put yer Johnson. I was told that from the time I was a boy.

Careful ain't enough. The options are abstinence or risk. Just as in everything else in life, really.

I live in an isolated town in the mountains, forty miles or more in every direction from the nearest towns and more than a hundred miles from the nearest shopping mall. A nice, safe, friendly place where you can count on your neighbors if disaster strikes. Some time ago some kind of scientist dudes were doing some kind of science shit at a lake that's considered nearby by local standards, above 10,000 feet in elevation, and found in the water a radioactive isotope whose only known terrestrial source is a factory in China. Specifically, the smokestacks of that factory, as the product of that factory doesn't leave China.

So maybe on the day that particle and some number of like particles fell from the sky, there was a dude up there fishing... A dude who never smoked or even entered a place where smoking was allowed, who never worked in a job where there were respiratory risk factors, who exercised regularly, watched his diet, ate only whole foods and fish and game from this seemingly pristine environment. There are dudes like that around here, too. And maybe he inhaled one or three of those particles that flew here from fucking China, man, and has since died of lung cancer.

Don't we all hear that kind of shit fairly often? Some random person never smoked a cigarette in his life, never lived in a polluted city, et cetera, dies of lung cancer. Some fuckin' guy who was a health nut his whole life dropped dead from a heart attack in his forties. And so on.

Careful ain't enough. The bumper sticker is correct: Shit Happens. It's easy enough to believe you've got this shit wired while it's not happening to you, but the simple truth is that there ain't a one of us who's got this shit wired. The world we live in is interconnected in myriad ways we don't stand a chance of fully or even adequately comprehending.

Way back when it was my shit to worry about I did my homework. Apparently that fucked up law in Kaliphonia is rooted in the decision that it's better to fuck that one guy really, really hard than to fuck the whole of the state just a little bit. Yeah, he and his wife are Asian and the child is black, but, ya know, fuck that guy anyway. Yeah, the guy has rock solid undeniable proof that his wife was fucking the pool man, who is black, but fuck that guy anyway. Yeah, genetic testing proves that he was not involved in conceiving the child, but fuck that guy anyway.

Shit Happens. Careful ain't enough.

I don't know what to say about the cancer and heart attack stuff.
Seems a bit off topic but..
IMHO you really should move.
That crap don't happen here.
I never heard of it.

Quote from: Masked Dude on January 25, 2013, 03:20:06 PM
Definitely not always fair. True story: I know a guy named Greg who was happily married. Two kids, 2 and 4, nice little girls. One day the wife just packs up and leaves while he's at work. She made no attempts to tell Greg or her friends she was unhappy.

She doesn't call or write anyone, not her kids, her family, her friends, no one. Greg goes on with life, getting help from his & her parents.

Twelve years later the bitch comes back. She makes no apologies but files for custody for her daughters. The elder girl hates the mother and the younger doesn't really know her. She gets full custody and over three quarters of Greg's pay goes to child support. Now, Greg doesn't get angry over the money, but she gets the kids while he gets one weekend a month if she feels like it?

Now that's some bullshit.

Yeah that is.
How'd she end up getting the kids?

Here's the california BS.
http://www.courts.ca.gov/1202.htm

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Cases Where Parentage Is Presumed Because the Parents Were Married

A child born during a marriage is presumed (assumed) to be a child of the marriage, and the husband and wife (or, after January 1, 2005, domestic partners) are the legal parents. This is called a ?conclusive presumption? which means that the presumption (that the child is a child of the married couple) cannot be disproved, even if there is evidence to disprove it. Read Family Code section 7540 for the law about this presumption.

There are very limited exceptions to this rule, and they can be very complicated to figure out. If you are married and have a child that you are not sure is your biological child, talk to a lawyer. A lawyer will be able to help you figure out if you have a legal basis to dispute paternity and, even if you can do it legally, if you should do it based on other considerations. Click for help finding a lawyer.

Seriously I'd move.

She got the kids because of the usual "kids need their mother" excuse. Judge used that, saying they needed to know her. The older one told the court as soon as she and her sister were able to leave the mother they would. She would only use her first name, not "Mom" or anything.

Quote from: BikerDude on January 25, 2013, 03:39:54 PM
IMHO you really should move.

There's no need. I don't live in Kaliphonia, and won't again enter the state. When we lived in Las Vegas, NV and would travel south to Arizona to visit our offspring the shortest route passed through Kaliphonia so we too a longer route. The roads were better on the longer route anyway.

I was born in Kaliphonia, but skedaddled when I was 18 vowing never to live there again... but the economy went to shit so I went back to work in the defense industry while Raygun was spending like mad on Star Wars and his great military build-up. As soon as things got better again I hauled ass. It was during the interim that I became too-well versed in Kaliphonia family law.

It's not the mistakes that you'd never consider making anyway that you have to watch out for. 

Hey BD, or anyone else aquainted with the rules of Dwarf 'tossing' - can you elucidate how this intriguing contest works?

In France I've never seen Dwarfs competing in this way. Do they toss themselves off or do they get chicks to do it for them?

An how is the winner decided in this minature tossing off manually contest. Is it first past the post or are we talking distance attained?

If it's a question of distance it would give the taller dwarfs an advantage, which seems unfair as they are then less 'dwarf'.




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