If My Ex Wife asked me to Watch her Pomeranian

[Rev.Wendy aka The Dude a-Rides]

We need a Dude dating site! I'd date a dude. As I mentioned in Strongly Vaginal, I might not MARRY one (since I am attempting to raise some little achievers here dude)

Also I like that the numbers are in my favour (being a female dude. vagina.)

Finding a special lady, or lady friend, who shares your ethos, is like finding your own whale song. Fuckin' interesting.

so? can you mark it 8 and get some coitus going or even increase the chances of fellow Dudeists to conceive?

[forumdude]

a dudeist dating site would be awesome. unfortunately we don't have enough women to pull it off. wendy would be stoked but most of the guys would probably be waiting around for a long time before anything came their way!

maybe we could have a special ladies' night where women get free virtual drinks?

[digbys kid]

Anyone who has been or currently is married (I'm one) knows that marriage and dudeness, while not mutually exclusive, are at very least at odds with each other.

As The Great Dude said, "She's not my special lady!  She's my fucking lady friend.  I'm just helping her conceive."  The Dude knows that abiding is a solo act, that a dude can be friends but never HAVE friends or special ladies (in the sense of possessions, like rugs), and that those friendships are based on vital needs, like bowling, Kahlua, or the fucking money.

That said, if I wasn't already married, I would certainly enjoy hanging around like female dudes like Whiteheart, Andrea Dudette, or Julianne Moore.  I'm just gonna go find a cash machine.

[greatspiritmonk]

Unless someone prefer to jerk of manually or what is called for female dudes (sorry I don't know how to say it  ) sooner or later we all feel the need for a special lady/sir or some lady friends/sir friends(?). At the end we are human beings. And most of us sooner or later like the idea of raising some little achievers. But mixing a Dude with a not-Dude is like mixing water and oil: they just don't mix well.
I think the chances for a male Dude to find a lady who like our way of living are far less than the chances for a female Dude to find a sir who likes her abiding attitude. It is one of those cases when I think that following Tao leads to find the right special one.

And as Dudeism spreads throughout the world I guess our chances will increase a lot.

It would also help if Rev. Wendy, Andrea Dudette and the other female Dudes spread the word  .

[Rev.Wendy aka The Dude a-Rides]

I am! I have three Dudeist bumperstickers, and was asked about it just tonight at a party! (I told them I am indeed ordained, and I supposed that I could marry them if they wanted. i hope i was correct!)

I said Dudeism was like Taoism, but with even fewer rules. And of course plugged TBL.

[greatspiritmonk]

I'm sure you are. I was thinking about spreading the word with your female friends.     

[DigitalBuddha]

Whenever the thought of marriage raises it's ugly head, I think of those immortal words "let me tell ya something about the dude..." and all such insane thoughts are exercised from my soul. Then I can abide in freedom and take er' easy for all us sinners.

[greatspiritmonk]

Yes sir, but, as regards coitus? That natural zesty enterprise? And growing up some little achievers?

Oh shit. Now I understand your point. If you meet a special Dude you don't need a piece of paper, if you don't then maybe it's not such a good idea.

Am I wrong sir? 

[Rev.Wendy aka The Dude a-Rides]

I *was* referring to my female friends. Most of my friends ARE female. For some reason.
Anyhow. I'm not a marriage-minded Dude myself. I knew from the age of 14 i wanted kids and I got right on that when i was 21. And then when i was 29. Same dude, no piece of paper. He proposed once and I said yes but then later we had a talk about how i *really* feel about marriage ie: it's a friggin' VOW, what's the point in taking a LIFE VOW when life is so fluid, so changing? Crazy. To me, anyhow. A very romantic NOTION, marriage is, but so....confining. I say, when you want out, it should be as easy as packing a bag, and not involve expensive lawyers or court fees , who-owns-what, blah blah. What a bummer , man.

Not to say I don't believe in a life-lasting love relationship. Sure, why not? I've seen it done. I think it's cute...and would be lovely to find someone you never get sick of. Why nail it down with a wedding though? Way to put the pressure on!

[SmokeytheBuddha]

Nice matrimonial marmots you're all tossing around here.

For me, I think the point is to avoid becoming uptight about whatever relational what-have-you you're in or want to be in or stay away from.

I know people who have really fucked up views about marriage being the only way and I know people who have fucked up views about being single being the only way. Both extremes are pretty reactionary to me.

The trick is to remain true to yourself and abide in whatever situation you're in. Which can be more difficult if you're married and have kids, of course. The square community finds it much easier to pin things on you when you've got to feed the monkey.

But married men (and women) also abide...married men (and women) also abide.

[Rev.Wendy aka The Dude a-Rides]

oops sorry if i was trying to mark it 8 there, or 0, or whathaveyou
i have a pair of friends who are married and totally happy, and it's sweet.
I'm all for doing whatever suits you, whatever makes you happy

[greatspiritmonk]

I think you two have made the perfect summary of Dudeist's point of view on marriage and relationship. I dig both of your styles.

It's easier though for us to have such an idea on "love" or just coitus; our worldview is so relaxed that most of the time we apply the law of abiding to everything. Non-Dude people find it harder to do so.
Taking life easy means also taking marriage easy, it should be something easy to do and easy to undo, if needed. The problem is that it has legal bindings and not all women have the point of view of Rev. Wendy. Unfortunately. As much as not all men accept the idea that sometimes things just don't work.

Someone usually tells me that I'm pretty cool about relationships because I've never been really in love with someone else. Which can be true. But when I was younger I almost did it. More or less, but I've also seen that if I loose my head for a special lady I don't take 'er easy very much and don't abide enough too, so better stay in the middle.
Anyhow I think age should give people the concept that you must accept both strikes and gutters. Or as you say: "Shit happens".

If someone is right with his feelings then there is a perfect love and you never get tired of the other one. If not then it's better to split and find the right one. My point is that if it doesn't work than it's been a blunder. And if it is simple to manage the split better.

At the end you always win if you take it easy, abiding you know. And knowing that you're not being gypped but there is someone maybe better further down the trail.

[greatspiritmonk]

Or, if you are into the whole brevity thing: if the relationship fits its time and place and people everything goes well. If not then better go bowling. 

[Andrea D.]

One thing is a date, another thing is marriage, other thing is coitus and help to conceive...you can have all these things, together without the need to marry someone... i mean you can have your specialboyfriend and that's cool...
You can have Jhonson too and that's the issue here..hahaha.
Well is just like my opinion.

[Andrea D.]

:S
I was reading my post and i think that any person can think that i treat objects like men.