Being quick to anger

[SagebrushSage]

*deleting old posts*

[mjcody138]

To be honest dudes, I'm glad I found Dudeism.
The reason why is because I was just such a rage-filled miserable fucker all the time.
The reason why that was is that I served for 6 years in the Army as Military Police. I spent a year in Iraq. 7 of those months at a checkpoint where terrible shit could and would sometimes happen. The balance was spent dealing with detainees.
I came back to the states ready to start a family with my wife and get a decent job and buy into the American Dream.
I never gave myself a chance to reset from that hellhole and just hit the ground running.
Within that year, we had two miscarriages, the awesome biotech job that I had moved to Germany and I found out that my eldest son (who has lived with me since he was 2) is mildly autistic.
Meanwhile, I'm dealing with all of this by drinking all of the Smirnoff.
So...one of my buddies gets me a job as an armed guard, nice hourly rate. I proceed to drink myself out of that job.
BTW, I didn't mention that we have an infant daughter and our youngest son on the way.
Luckily after a couple of months I found another armed guard job. I lost that one too.
So, to fast forward to the present (8 years later) I had reached a turning point. I've lost jobs, been to jail (DUI), almost lost my family, been homeless, etc. and still blamed everyone else. After reading The Dude Manifesto and farting around the site I realized why I was being such an unDudely asshole; such an angry, inflamed, puckered, bleeding asshole:
   I bought into the bullshit.
I allowed material things and economic success to define me.
So yeah, I'm a recent convert but this shit has been pretty eye-opening. My Anger comes directly from Fear; and as we learned in the most excellent film 'Dune' - fear is the mind killer.
So basically, yeah I have goals but I dealt with the here and now today not by getting angry but by playing Chutes and Ladders with the Little Dudes.
You can't change the past. So why live there and get angry about your mistakes and fuck up your present mang?

Sorry for the long post. Where's the bar?

[RandoRock]

MjCody,

Thank you for your service! Glad that Dudeism is helping you out, Man! Quite a few others, Myself included, came to embrace Dudeism under circumstances similar to yours. As the Dude says "Fuck it, Man. Life goes on" It's never too late to turn things around so welcome to the forums and the bars over there!

[mjcody138]

Nice!

[resist-the-rush]

How comical and bliss life would be if we could look at stupidity for what it is, but that can edge one toward narcissism. To buggery with !@#$%'ery.. Devour it with a smile and become a strong minded dude <3

[resist-the-rush]

After an episode of letting anger get the better of me, I tend to find myself in a state of self pity once reflecting on my actions. This could hinder my capability of learning from the situation and therefore the same mistake will repeat itself until I find the hidden gem of wisdom that works for me next time.
n relation to your question, I'm a big fan of the 'its less important' approach, contingent the amount of bullshit you are exposed to. Put on a pair of sunnies Dude, and try not to laugh too hard at the foolish behavior causing you to get peeved-off. Nobody attacks the guy with the cool shades on.

[Jianblade]

Fuck it, life goes on man, can't be worried about that shit!

[HnauHnakrapunt]

Anger is a strange thing. Sometimes I manage to get rid of it by turning my mind to bare facts and throwing away any opinions. And sometimes I feel like somebody who took some pills and cannot react properly, even though I use no such things. I know I am behaving like an idiot and I cannot help it.

[yogiwork]

If you are short temper person then try to control your anger by yourself. Read books or watch comedy movies, it will calm your mind. Think positive, because anger affects your health as well as relations with your family members. Mac Coupon Code

[StatusQuid]

Anger is a big problem in my life. I've gotten better at recognizing what brings it out but so far the effect of realisation has been minimal.

With me anger is largely ego based. If I feel as though I'm being treated as lesser or lighter than I am my back gets up and the fangs are bared. One of the things that appeals to me about The Dude is his almost complete lack of active ego.

As I read and hear more I hope to achieve that degree of ego suppression.

I'm happy to know others here have the same struggle because I was hesitant to become ordained because of my unDudely tendency to anger.