Dudeist views on Marriage

[SirNels]

Dudeist Views on Marriage

Marriage is a social convention, an institution created by man for the well-being and happiness of two people and to maintain order and harmony in the process of procreation. Dudeists are advised to limit themselves to one spouse. The Dude did not give rules on married life but gave necessary advice on how to live a happy life.  It is Wise and Advisable to be Faithful to one's spouse and not to be sensual and to run after others. It is also very wise to Not commit adultery.

The Dudeist views on marriage are very liberal: in Dudeism, marriage is regarded entirely as personal and individual concern, and not as a religious requirement. There are no religious laws in Dudeism compelling a person to be married, to remain as a bachelor or to lead a life of total celibacy. It is not laid down anywhere that Dudeists must produce children or regulate the number of children that they produce. Dudeism allows each individual the freedom to decide for themselves all the issues pertaining to marriage.


Divorce

Separation or divorce is not prohibited in Dudeism though the necessity would rarely if ever arise, if Dudeism were followed. Men and women must have the liberty to separate if they really cannot agree with each other. Separation is preferable to avoid a miserable family life for which can create undue problems, disharmony and possibly lead to ones spiritual and or financial downfall.

A society grows through a network of relationships which are mutually inter-twined and inter-dependent. Every relationship is a whole hearted commitment to support and to protect others in a group or community. Marriage plays a very important part in this strong web of relationships of giving support and protection. A good marriage should grow and develop gradually from understanding and not impulse, from loyalty and not just sheer indulgence. The institution of marriage provides a fine basis for the development of culture, a delightful association of two individuals to be nurtured, and to be free from loneliness, deprivation and fear. In Marriage, each partner develops a complementary role, giving strength and moral courage to one another, each manifesting a supportive and appreciative recognition of their partners skills. There must be no thought of one being superior to the other -- each of you is complementary to the other, a partnership of equality, exuding gentleness, generosity, calm and dedication.


But this is all just my opinion, so if you agree with it, that's cool. If you don't agree with it that's okay too.

[Boston Rockbury]

I think it's great that you're putting up some stuff to get us thinking.

Pretty tough to extrapolate a dude-based theory on adultery from the movie.

I have interviewed a few prominent Osho students recently (Deva Premal and Miten, Diana Richardson). These are highly enlightened dudes, with phenomonally powerful dude-energy. They have developed committed relationships growing out of a starting point of total sexual freedom. They have something important in common with The Dude which is a lack of hang-ups and fear. Why do we want to restrict our partners sexual freedom? Because of our fear of abandonment.

Monogomy from a position of fear is pretty unhealthy.