Morning Dudes, I gotta admit I found this web page awhile back. I popped in here and there, always making sure not to step on the carpet and mess it up. But events as of lately have made me sit down, take a look a where my life is going and realize... I'm doing it all wrong.
I'm 28 years old, working 80-100 hours a week, stressing about every little thing in my life to the point that I'm losing the hair and recently discovered that the mild case of indigestion I had from cold leftovers in the break room at the job was actually a minor heart attack (That I continued to work through because I didn't have the time to go to the doctor)
It was last night that changed my outlook though. I had gotten home from an actual 8 hour day... Well 9 really. I had changed out of my uniform and just kind of sat down in the living room before I began to do the usual "around the house" type stuff. Reflecting on the events of the past few weeks and exactly what was going on in my own little world. I was sitting in a dark room, worrying about the things I had to do on Friday.
Wait... Why? Why am I worried about this? Worrying about all this stuff has gotten me where I am now. Screw it, I'm done thinking about work, worrying about work and stressing over every little thing in life. I'm just gonna sit here, and let things happen as they happen.
Now, don't get me wrong, I've said this before and it hasn't gotten me very far, not long after I'm right back to where I was in the beginning. However, this time is a little on the different side, especially with the health scare. Instead of getting up to go check e-mails and plan my week I stood up, poured a glass of scotch and sat back down in the chair, flipping on the TV.
Scrolling through the channels I found the Big Lebowski playing. It is one of the very few movies that I will not change the channels on when I scroll past it. Shawshank Redemption I think is the only other one. I sat, I drank, I watched and didn't worry, think, or have a care in the world for the first time in a long time.
But while watching, I realized I actually envied The Dude. Well not when he got his carpet ruined. Or the new carpet taken or anything like that, but in the sense that, hey, let it go, whatever happens will happen. I've read up on it more while I sit here before my next meeting at work.
Normally, I'd be pacing the office, reading note cards, and setting every minute up in my head. However. Today. On the first day of my journey? I'm sitting here writing this. Reading up some more Dudeism. Twice today already scenarios have come up that would have sent my blood pressure up. First one?
"Sorry, but that's really not my problem or department. You'll need to talk to Bill in the Facilities department"
Scenario 2?
"OK, it happened, I'll fill out the forms that I have to fill out and we go from there"
"Wait, you're not stressing out about it like usual?"
"I know, it feels good"
I know it's only the beginning of the journey. That I'll have many nihillists to try to stray me from the path... But, while it may be only my opinion... Think it's time for a change for the better.
Think I'll take half the day off, go bowling...
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 17, 2013, 10:07:29 AM
Morning Dudes, I gotta admit I found this web page awhile back. I popped in here and there, always making sure not to step on the carpet and mess it up. But events as of lately have made me sit down, take a look a where my life is going and realize... I'm doing it all wrong.
I'm 28 years old, working 80-100 hours a week, stressing about every little thing in my life to the point that I'm losing the hair and recently discovered that the mild case of indigestion I had from cold leftovers in the break room at the job was actually a minor heart attack (That I continued to work through because I didn't have the time to go to the doctor)
It was last night that changed my outlook though. I had gotten home from an actual 8 hour day... Well 9 really. I had changed out of my uniform and just kind of sat down in the living room before I began to do the usual "around the house" type stuff. Reflecting on the events of the past few weeks and exactly what was going on in my own little world. I was sitting in a dark room, worrying about the things I had to do on Friday.
Wait... Why? Why am I worried about this? Worrying about all this stuff has gotten me where I am now. Screw it, I'm done thinking about work, worrying about work and stressing over every little thing in life. I'm just gonna sit here, and let things happen as they happen.
Now, don't get me wrong, I've said this before and it hasn't gotten me very far, not long after I'm right back to where I was in the beginning. However, this time is a little on the different side, especially with the health scare. Instead of getting up to go check e-mails and plan my week I stood up, poured a glass of scotch and sat back down in the chair, flipping on the TV.
Scrolling through the channels I found the Big Lebowski playing. It is one of the very few movies that I will not change the channels on when I scroll past it. Shawshank Redemption I think is the only other one. I sat, I drank, I watched and didn't worry, think, or have a care in the world for the first time in a long time.
But while watching, I realized I actually envied The Dude. Well not when he got his carpet ruined. Or the new carpet taken or anything like that, but in the sense that, hey, let it go, whatever happens will happen. I've read up on it more while I sit here before my next meeting at work.
Normally, I'd be pacing the office, reading note cards, and setting every minute up in my head. However. Today. On the first day of my journey? I'm sitting here writing this. Reading up some more Dudeism. Twice today already scenarios have come up that would have sent my blood pressure up. First one?
"Sorry, but that's really not my problem or department. You'll need to talk to Bill in the Facilities department"
Scenario 2?
"OK, it happened, I'll fill out the forms that I have to fill out and we go from there"
"Wait, you're not stressing out about it like usual?"
"I know, it feels good"
I know it's only the beginning of the journey. That I'll have many nihillists to try to stray me from the path... But, while it may be only my opinion... Think it's time for a change for the better.
Think I'll take half the day off, go bowling...
Welcome, Dude! May I suggest downloading the dudeism relaxer and setting it for regular intervals to keep away the nihilists in your head. Look after your health, man! I don't know what your job is, but I bet it isn't worth your life. And do stop into the beach community to limber up your mind and let go of any uptight perspectives.
In some way or another we're all aspiring toward the same thing -- it's nice to have fellow meanderers to wander the Trail of Abiding with.
Aw shucks, I'm rambling again!
I didn't even know there were 80-100 hours in a week. I never bothered to count them. But that is too many hours to work in a YEAR dude!
Sometimes it IS nihilists or reactionaries that knock us off the path but I'd guess that most often it's achievers who do that and perhaps most often of all the 'inner achiever'. The inner achiever bone is connected to the uptight bone - as the song tells us. Once you get into note cards the game is pretty much up. I think it's fair to say that having a heart attack is probably a message that all may not be quite right. Doctor Dude prescribes a large does of laziness to treat this particular condition.
It's also essential to have a cat or dog to stroke regularly as the chakras in the hands are connected to the heart chakra, so animal stroking is soothing for the heart. Best to combine this with whale sounds and a relaxing bath. Welcome to a whole new way of being dude!
Appreciate the advice Dudes. It's going to be a trying path for awhile until I learn to let go of past habits but I'm slowly but surely on the way.
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 17, 2013, 12:20:05 PM
Once you get into note cards the game is pretty much up. I think it's fair to say that having a heart attack is probably a message that all may not be quite right.
I lost my shit when I read these two sentences. But, seriously, Dude. Mark it 0.
Peace, dudes!
Yesterday was an unbelievable success. To the point where I went home, was still calm and collected, grabbed a six pack of pint can's on the way home from work, sat down and took a nap for a little while.
Wasn't frazzled, didn't have the usual nagging headache... Today will be a bigger test however. Very high level people coming to do a walkthrough of the job and everyone around me is running around like nut jobs preparing. Me? Sitting here, watching a compilation of cat video's on youtube. Enjoying a beverage, delegating what I can... It's oddly surreal but at the same time I haven't felt this way during work in a long time. Usually only get peace like this when I'm on vacation.
Need to go search for a miniature carpet to pull my office together I think.
Somebody just recently gave me a Buddhist quote that goes "confusion is the first step to enlightenment". I think you are on the right path. I have recently been undergoing a similar awakening. I retired from my old job in '98 but am working full-time in a different field. I wonder about working "for the man" as it were. Part of my problem is that I fell for the whole American dream thing, buy the house, etc., and find that I am now a slave to all of it. Figuring out how to get free of it is the challenge for me because of my "commitments".
I applaud you for making the inroads that you have. Keep us posted.
Quote from: LotsaBadKarma on April 18, 2013, 10:36:12 AM
Somebody just recently gave me a Buddhist quote that goes "confusion is the first step to enlightenment". I think you are on the right path. I have recently been undergoing a similar awakening. I retired from my old job in '98 but am working full-time in a different field. I wonder about working "for the man" as it were. Part of my problem is that I fell for the whole American dream thing, buy the house, etc., and find that I am now a slave to all of it. Figuring out how to get free of it is the challenge for me because of my "commitments".
I applaud you for making the inroads that you have. Keep us posted.
Oh don't get me wrong, I'm trying to break the chains of the American dream. At 16 I started work, 2 part times, a full time job and high school. Did this to support my family when my Grandmother passed away. From then up until now I've never actually worked a 40 hour week. My minimum has probably been 60 hours at least.
As of late I've been doing the best to get out of the hole I dug myself with Credit Cards. I'm trying to get out of the hole I dug when I went out and bought my Harley. Trying to get out of the hole that comes around 4 times a year when I have to pay the property taxes. However, since I've flipped my mental condition I've kind of taken a different view on the way it works
"I can have the Bills, I can deal with the job, but it doesn't have to stress me out."
I used to stress each month when the bills were due, do I have enough to cover them all, will I have to put off one to afford the other? Used to give me sleepless nights to be honest. Now? I can cover these, no big deal. This one will be tight but I'll just make a call, see what they say. They work with me? Great. If not? Oh well, I'll figure it out next paycheck is all.
It's almost as if that I've stopped being able to care about it. Perhaps from all the years of dealing with this from a young age I've just burnt out that portion of the brain in a way lol
Nice, Dude! A word from the unwise: Be patient with yourself through this process. You'll likely find that your new-found "fuck it" attitude slips from time to time, plunging you back to the mental habits that you're trying to overcome. Something will happen and you'll feel very undude; you'll quickly snap back in to old ways of thinking, and have doubts about the value of a limber mind. At least, this happens to most people when they try to take a new perspective on things.
Just remember that when this happens nothing is fucked! The goddamned plane has not, in fact, flown into the mountain. These are just old habits reasserting themselves. Years and years of conditioning that has a pretty firm grasp on the ole neural architecture. The thing to keep in mind is that, first off, this is natural, man -- it's just what minds do and there's no reason to lose your cool (you don't have to believe everything you think, as a wiser fella than myself once said). Second, these are the exact moments that provide you with opportunities to really abide. Slipping into old habits is not a bad thing, in fact, it's the greatest teacher if you can recognize you've done it and do some kind of yoga to increase the chances of conceiving an abidist mindset. You know, man?
I'd like to point out how beautiful it is that at this crucial moment in your life, you happen to stumble upon The Big Lebowski. I think thats pretty cool. I mean, its been coming on TV a lot recently, so its not some magical event, but its pretty crazy that your answer you needed just appeared like that.
Just sayin
Yeah, the dude works in mysterious ways I guess. First to have put the show on, and if you want weirder, letting me work the first 9 hour day I've worked in the past... 3 months, so I was actually home to catch it and the message.
I'm gonna be 100% honest in the fact that I'm waiting to revert into my old train of thought here and there. But so far I haven't. I work my day, leave when I'm supposed too, go home, relax. I did a little gardening yesterday and changed my belt on my car. Didn't think about anything work related.
I wake up I'm not tired, I don't get that underlying feeling of dread while at work anymore, I don't get the headaches like I used too... I feel fantastic. Dudeism... A way of life that may have just extended mine lol
For myself, in the past, I would allow myself to be put into inconvenient situations like getting called in for extra shifts. I would feel resentful about this until the point where I got into an argument with a co-worker one day about not me not thinking that she was holding up her end on the job. She simply stated "I don't run for this place any more" which was profound for me. The place we worked had a policy of under-staffing. We would work short until someone got burned out enough to quit. If we lost 3 people they would hire 2, lose 2 hire 1, lose 1.....Fuck it! What she said kinda snapped me back to reality. At that point I saw that it wasn't the workers who weren't holding up their end but the admin that wasn't holding up theirs! At that point I stopped running and started to rely on my caller ID. I always get my job done and I don't leave unfinished shit for the next shift to fix but when they're looking for somebody to kick in an extra 12 hours, well, "phone's ringin', Dude". Just don't expect me to get up and answer it.
I work in an Emergency Room. Let me tell you, those fascists are something else.
Luckily I am not clinical or I would be stuck there forever or in a place like it. I leave in June but a few months back I realized I was hitting a dead wall. The worry that would accumulate after each shift would send me spiraling deeper than usual into the friendly drink. I felt bad, looked bad and felt trapped.
Then it hit me.
It doesn't fucking matter. I thankfully leave at the beginning of June to transfer to a 4 year college. There I'll be doing I.T. work and catering, neither of which I consider terribly horrid jobs. Even if they were I know that it can't be that bad. I agree with you, I envied the dude. He had his rug, his house, various knick knacks.
Really that's all I need. I think I'll end up teaching and as long as I have my motorcycle, a car that doesn't break down too often and vinyl records abound, I'm happy.
Keep on it dude, it'll pan out and maybe that opportunity to do that classic job. That "if you love your work you never work a day in our life" job.
Quote from: Father Dude on April 20, 2013, 08:30:01 PM
I work in an Emergency Room. Let me tell you, those fascists are something else.
Hospitals are dens of evil. Apparently, in order to succeed in a career in a hospital you have to have a mental age of 12 and be mean as hell.
Great thread, man. Enjoyable read. Always nice to hear from people in high-pressure jobs and lives who "hear the call" of Dudeism. I was much the same as you, This Dude Abides - working way more than I was getting paid for, constantly stressed about credit card bills, rent bills, every other kinda bill... but now? I still have the same job - but I work my day, do my best, then when I'm gone I'm gone. No take-homes. I still have bills - in fact, the bills have got worse lately, it's looking like for the next month or two I'm going to have just enough coming in to pay my rent, pay my debts, pay my bills, and have about 1/4 of what I need for food etc. But y'know what? Fuck it. Can't do anything about getting into that situation. Can't do anything to get out of it other than just "give zem ze fockin' money". And if the alternative is stress and worry and bigger debts to sort out next time? C'mon, man, we're ending things cheap here.
So from the bottom of my heart, dude, good luck with making the change. I honestly think it may be the most important one you make in your life. And I think you'll find (well, you already have) that there's a great community of dudely brothers and sisters on these-here boards who will keep your spirits up and help you keep your mind limber.
Thanks for the words of encouragement Dudes. I almost let myself slip earlier this morning. Company is hosting a bring your child to work day event. In two days, that they just told me about now. I've got nothing against the kids don't get me wrong but I'm the Security/Safety Dude in a Laboratory.
Kids+Chemicals = Bad juju man.
Felt myself tense up, the early stages of the headaches I used to get all the time starting to reassert itself. Just closed my eyes, took a deep breath and thought back to the Dude. Actually the very photo I have in my avatar came to mind.
Not a big deal man. I've got two days, we've got certain procedures that need to be followed, just means everyone else, by not telling me, needs to Abide by them faster.
"But this has been planned for 3 weeks, why is it a problem now?"
"Because no one told me 3 weeks ago, if they had I would have given you all the information you need and it would have been done beforehand without a problem"
I honestly think the major thing that Dudeism is teaching me, is that just because something happens, or someone doesn't do what they're supposed to, it doesn't mean I have to go around and fix it and stress about getting it done. I used to come in at 7:00am and not actually get to my office until 10:00 or 11:00am simply because I was running around defusing small situations and problems that everyone else had. Then going to do my work, dealing with the problems and situations that I or my team had, then around 2:00 or 3:00pm beginning my actual daily workload.
Everyone at work knows somethings different about me. Most of the guys on my team are commenting how I look healthier. I'm walking differently in the halls. As one of my guys put it:
"You always used to be at a jog from one place to another. Dude's coming, get out of the way else he'll run you over. Now you saunter"
It's not without it's trials though. Seems there's a few around who wouldn't do portions of their jobs and were relying on me to pick up the slack. I've added another phrase to my vocabulary that I honestly don't think I've ever used:
"That's not my department"
Twice I've been called on the carpet by my boss, asking why something isn't done. Twice I've looked at him and told him, because it's not my job to do that. Which, usually results in him stopping mid sentence, giving me a puzzled look and going through the files to say "Oh yeah, you aren't responsible for that.. You've just always given me the reports on it for some reason"
This Dude has Abided for a long time, in the thought that going above and beyond is what get's you ahead. This Dude, after a pretty harsh life lesson, has learned that if you're not careful it get's you taken advantage of and will more then likely, earn you an early grave.
Almost was too late for me. But hopefully another Dude in the world can read this and learn it sooner then I did. There's multiple people as I look around my building, that come in, do what they have to, and leave. There's no stigma on them. They aren't slackers, their jobs aren't threatened, and when they leave they go home and don't think about the job until the alarm goes off in the morning. Why can't I have that luxury?
I was dying to go to LebowskiFest this weekend to be honest, just to meet the likeminded. Listen to those more experienced with the lifestyle then I am and get some pointers, tips and tricks. I'm only an hour or so from NYC. But I realized:
A: I hate New York City
B: It would mean going to the city
lol. Seriously though maybe next year. I only learned about LebowskiFest earlier this week so didn't have a chance to plan or arrange anything.
Instead I loaded up the car with a cooler, small pack of cold cuts and quick food, some beer, and my tent. Hiked along the river awhile until I lost cell phone service, found a nice clearing, setup the tent and went fishing from Friday to Sunday. Nice little mini-vacation which I think I'm going to do far more often.
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 23, 2013, 12:48:46 PM
Not a big deal man. I've got two days, we've got certain procedures that need to be followed, just means everyone else, by not telling me, needs to Abide by them faster.
So there you have it. 8)
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 23, 2013, 12:48:46 PM
I honestly think the major thing that Dudeism is teaching me, is that just because something happens, or someone doesn't do what they're supposed to, it doesn't mean I have to go around and fix it and stress about getting it done.
I developed a mental habit in teaching my kids about problems and responsibilities: "Whose problem is it?". What I taught the young 'uns was that if it was their problem, they had to solve it. They could ask for help but they couldn't whine if the answer was no. They also had to understand that once they accepted responsibility for someone else's problem it became their own. It was one of those cases of the master becoming enlightened... My wife and I have a shorthand for knowing when to back away: NMP. Not My Problem. It works well.
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 23, 2013, 12:48:46 PM
"That's not my department"
Rock on!
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 23, 2013, 12:48:46 PM
This Dude has Abided for a long time, in the thought that going above and beyond is what get's you ahead. This Dude, after a pretty harsh life lesson, has learned that if you're not careful it get's you taken advantage of and will more then likely, earn you an early grave.
Truth!
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 23, 2013, 12:48:46 PM
Almost was too late for me. But hopefully another Dude in the world can read this and learn it sooner then I did.
I had myself a similar experience. I was good at not stressing over the job, but the family thing? Forget about it. Damn near killed my wife as well as me. I got by without medical intervention, but my wife wasn't so lucky and our misdirected loyalty to family nearly killed her. She was left with PTSD, and the severe chronic stress exacerbated a congenital heart condition which had never before been problem enough to even warrant seeking medical attention. We're about a half-million into debt now because of it and don't dare to seek bankruptcy protection yet because she's at least one more surgery away from correction of the defect -- if we should for some reason lose our medical insurance we'd be just one more crisis away from permanently screwed. It sucks that we'll eventually have to seek bankruptcy protection, but we're not the ones who rigged the system so fuck 'em.
That whole experience taught me many things I'd rather have no need of knowing. It narrowed my focus to only that which is truly important. All the rest will get by without my help, or it won't, and either way it's NMP.
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 20, 2013, 10:20:01 PM
Quote from: Father Dude on April 20, 2013, 08:30:01 PM
I work in an Emergency Room. Let me tell you, those fascists are something else.
Hospitals are dens of evil. Apparently, in order to succeed in a career in a hospital you have to have a mental age of 12 and be mean as hell.
I'll never work healthcare again. It is a world of pain.
Quote from: Father Dude on April 23, 2013, 07:13:38 PM
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 20, 2013, 10:20:01 PM
Quote from: Father Dude on April 20, 2013, 08:30:01 PM
I work in an Emergency Room. Let me tell you, those fascists are something else.
Hospitals are dens of evil. Apparently, in order to succeed in a career in a hospital you have to have a mental age of 12 and be mean as hell.
I'll never work healthcare again. It is a world of pain.
At this point in life I am part of the nursing staff at a rural hospital. The people I work with are compassionate and have a desire to be part of the healing of human suffering. Same at the other 2 hospitals I have worked at. Problem is the people who go to college, get a 4 year BSN in Nursing, then immediately go to grad school and get an MA in Hospital Administration without ever spending a day working the floor as a real RN. They hear all the theories about minimizing expenses/staff in the MA program and they go to a real hospital and implement this shit and pretty soon the morale is in the toilet. People have a tendency to blame nurses but it is my belief that the problems start higher up the corporate ladder.
So, since I've begun this undertaking, I find myself with a problem that I haven't had in the past 12 years of my working career. Working a 40 hour week, when I'm used to 80-105 hours, has left me with a lot of free time. I honestly can say it's a nice problem to have, but I'm still not used to it.
So.. What to do?
I fish a lot now
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Some TV with one of the most Dudest Dudes I know
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And some quality time at the Shooting range. I used to be a regular, honestly been over 2 years since I stepped foot in the place
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Doing some Gardening as well. Plan on doing some local sight seeing too. Sleepy Hollow, headless horseman legend place, is close by, never actually been through that old cemetary. It's odd though, at time I feel almost guilty that I'm enjoying myself so much.. Aww well, it passes quickly
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 27, 2013, 04:28:05 PM
It's odd though, at time I feel almost guilty that I'm enjoying myself so much.. Aww well, it passes quickly
It's like the first time you have sex, man. At first you're all, "Gee, Mom, won't Dad be mad about this?", but then you just go with it. ;D
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 27, 2013, 04:43:29 PM
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 27, 2013, 04:28:05 PM
It's odd though, at time I feel almost guilty that I'm enjoying myself so much.. Aww well, it passes quickly
It's like the first time you have sex, man. At first you're all, "Gee, Mom, won't Dad be mad about this?", but then you just go with it. ;D
Shit man you never said you was from Alabama.
Maybe you know my wife - I mean my sister - hell it's all the same thing.
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 27, 2013, 05:16:53 PM
Shit man you never said you was from Alabama.
;D
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 27, 2013, 05:16:53 PM
Maybe you know my wife - I mean my sister - hell it's all the same thing.
My youngest child and my wife's youngest child, step-siblings that'd make 'em, are shacked up and bumping uglies. And they're stupid so it won't be long before she's knocked up. That poor fucking kid, man. "My dad's my uncle and my mom's my aunt."
Fuck, man. Just fuck. I dunno.
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 27, 2013, 04:28:05 PMPlan on doing some local sight seeing too. Sleepy Hollow, headless horseman legend place, is close by...
I'm going to try to head there this year. Part of my mother's family is from there. Never seen it in person.
From what I hear it's a cool place to go to in the fall. They've got a recreation bridge from the headless horseman legend, there's some of the oldest head stones in America as well as some very famous dudes in that place. Washington Irving and Thomas Watson of IBM come to mind
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 27, 2013, 06:39:15 PM
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 27, 2013, 05:16:53 PM
Shit man you never said you was from Alabama.
;D
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 27, 2013, 05:16:53 PM
Maybe you know my wife - I mean my sister - hell it's all the same thing.
My youngest child and my wife's youngest child, step-siblings that'd make 'em, are shacked up and bumping uglies. And they're stupid so it won't be long before she's knocked up. That poor fucking kid, man. "My dad's my uncle and my mom's my aunt."
Fuck, man. Just fuck. I dunno.
It's easy to buy into social judgements, but there are no genetic issues because they aren't blood related, so it's their business. Not really anyone else's job to say who you should love and who you should be happy with. Am I wrong?
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 05:20:00 AM
Am I wrong?
We were going along joking about inbreeding and so on, weren't we? That's the direction I was going, anyway. Could be I missed the turn and the parade went on without me while I look like a loon marching all alone down the center of Main Street.
The devil in the details would land the boy in jail for a good long time, but it still ain't nunna my bidness. I was joking about the kid who as far as I know ain't even conceived yet.
Sometimes a little mantra goes a long way towards improving the ole cognitive muscle memory when it comes to relaxing. Mine is, "what is, is and what isn't, isn't". If you repeat your mantra to yourself it can work wonders towards being more dude, and if you say it out loud it usually keeps the seat next to you free on public transit.
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 28, 2013, 12:30:03 PM
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 05:20:00 AM
Am I wrong?
We were going along joking about inbreeding and so on, weren't we? That's the direction I was going, anyway. Could be I missed the turn and the parade went on without me while I look like a loon marching all alone down the center of Main Street.
The devil in the details would land the boy in jail for a good long time, but it still ain't nunna my bidness. I was joking about the kid who as far as I know ain't even conceived yet.
sure dude - i wasn't trying to be critical or nothing by the way. Seemed to be a serious sub-text to the humour and my training as a therapist got the better of me.
Psychobabble - it's a disease with no known cure and I got it bad! It was me marched off with the band playing in my own head
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 01:17:37 PM
sure dude - i wasn't trying to be critical or nothing by the way.
No worries, man. I didn't take anything any particular way. 8)
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 01:17:37 PM
Seemed to be a serious sub-text to the humour and my training as a therapist got the better of me.
Isn't there/shouldn't there be some kind of 12 step program or drug therapy for that shit? ;D
There is a serious subtext to it, but none of it's serious to me or to my wife. We've got a nice cruisin' kinda gig going on, and
ain't nobody got time for dat (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFEoMO0pc7k).
This thread needs to be in book or something, a wise and dudely book too...
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 28, 2013, 04:41:43 PM
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 01:17:37 PM
sure dude - i wasn't trying to be critical or nothing by the way.
No worries, man. I didn't take anything any particular way. 8)
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 01:17:37 PM
Seemed to be a serious sub-text to the humour and my training as a therapist got the better of me.
Isn't there/shouldn't there be some kind of 12 step program or drug therapy for that shit? ;D
i got the drug regime sorted man :)
Quote from: Easy McRider on April 28, 2013, 05:04:36 PM
This thread needs to be in book or something, a wise and dudely book too...
Welcome; good to have you abide here, Easy McRider. Grab a lane, and oat soda and roll with the rest of us.
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 06:26:30 PM
i got the drug regime sorted man :)
Ya might need to adjust the dosing just a smidge there, Dude. 8)
If a little is good, more is better, and too much is just enough. Oh yeah...
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 06:26:30 PM
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 28, 2013, 04:41:43 PM
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 01:17:37 PM
sure dude - i wasn't trying to be critical or nothing by the way.
No worries, man. I didn't take anything any particular way. 8)
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 01:17:37 PM
Seemed to be a serious sub-text to the humour and my training as a therapist got the better of me.
Isn't there/shouldn't there be some kind of 12 step program or drug therapy for that shit? ;D
i got the drug regime sorted man :)
Oh if it wasn't for random drug testing at work lol...
Quote from: Easy McRider on April 28, 2013, 05:04:36 PM
This thread needs to be in book or something, a wise and dudely book too...
And to be honest, I had thought about cleaning up the threads and expanding on certain things and seeing about submitting it for the Dudespaper, but doubt anyone would want to read more of my ramblings lol
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 28, 2013, 11:47:56 PM
Oh if it wasn't for random drug testing at work lol...
Well if that doesn't suck but not in a good way, huh?
I had to deal with that shit for a lot of years. I was in the Air Force when that Reagan cocksucker took office, and next thing I know I'm being "randomly selected by the computer" every fucking month. I wouldn't have minded all that much if I weren't the sort who can't pee when some other guy is standing there staring at my pecker to make sure I'm not sneaking something else into the cup. I'm sure it was just a completely disconnected coincidence that when the first shirt got orders out the random number generator that kept hitting my name got fixed and I was never tested again.
Since then, I've done some pre-employment screens but never been zapped for a random. I wouldn't stake my livelihood on the slim chance of getting caught, but it's interesting to me that I've worked at so many places that kept that threat active but never made good on it. Now that I'm self employed, I live like I want to live and don't have to worry about no one believing that I don't have a Facebook account. ;D
Quote from: DigitalBuddha on April 28, 2013, 07:53:24 PM
Quote from: Easy McRider on April 28, 2013, 05:04:36 PM
This thread needs to be in book or something, a wise and dudely book too...
Welcome; good to have you abide here, Easy McRider. Grab a lane, and oat soda and roll with the rest of us.
It's a good place to abide here, consider it grabbed, soda in hand and already rolling.Thanks DigitalBuddha :D
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 29, 2013, 12:56:56 AM
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 28, 2013, 11:47:56 PM
Oh if it wasn't for random drug testing at work lol...
Well if that doesn't suck but not in a good way, huh?
I had to deal with that shit for a lot of years. I was in the Air Force when that Reagan cocksucker took office, and next thing I know I'm being "randomly selected by the computer" every fucking month. I wouldn't have minded all that much if I weren't the sort who can't pee when some other guy is standing there staring at my pecker to make sure I'm not sneaking something else into the cup. I'm sure it was just a completely disconnected coincidence that when the first shirt got orders out the random number generator that kept hitting my name got fixed and I was never tested again.
Since then, I've done some pre-employment screens but never been zapped for a random. I wouldn't stake my livelihood on the slim chance of getting caught, but it's interesting to me that I've worked at so many places that kept that threat active but never made good on it. Now that I'm self employed, I live like I want to live and don't have to worry about no one believing that I don't have a Facebook account. ;D
Yeah each day get's me a little more. I've been at the same place for going on 8 years. Pre-Employment screening test was done but since then I've only had one or two tests. But the thought is still there. And I know how my luck is:
"Screw it man, I've missed out for too long"
Next day
"Oh, you haven't had a random in 5 years, better make it up"
"aww crap"
They ever legalize it though and I'm using one week of my vacation.
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 29, 2013, 10:02:41 AM
They ever legalize it though and I'm using one week of my vacation.
That's a suck about legalization here in Colorado: Employers can still require testing and can still fire yer ass for failing on THC metabolites alone.
The place where my wife works gets fed money so they warned her when Amendment 64 passed that testing and termination could happen even though the state considers marijuana legal. I'm thinkin' that civilization is too generous a term for what we do here in the US.
Gotta admit that tapping into and bringing out my inner Dude 24/7 has made work a lot more pleasant, not to mention dealing with some of my more high strung coworkers, family members and friends.
The hardest part for me was allowing the answering machine or voicemail get the calls once I got home, especially if they weren't urgent but I finally got over that now.
This Dude wonders if she even needs her cell phone anymore; I hardly have it with me... ???
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 29, 2013, 11:20:16 AM
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 29, 2013, 10:02:41 AM
They ever legalize it though and I'm using one week of my vacation.
That's a suck about legalization here in Colorado: Employers can still require testing and can still fire yer ass for failing on THC metabolites alone.
The place where my wife works gets fed money so they warned her when Amendment 64 passed that testing and termination could happen even though the state considers marijuana legal. I'm thinkin' that civilization is too generous a term for what we do here in the US.
Yeah it's tough trying to sort out the laws and regs. Buddy of mine and I had wanted to do a road trip to Vegas on our motorcycles. Camp on the road that sort of thing. Took me two weeks to trace the route and figure out the law per state as far as open camping and if camp fires and such were allowed. Then I attempted to figure out the legality of bringing some sort of defense with us should we run into any Nihilists on the road and just about gave up there. Need to make it simple:
Legal: Act like a dude and be dudely to one another
Illegal: Not being dudely
Quote from: Chaplain K on April 29, 2013, 03:53:21 PM
Gotta admit that tapping into and bringing out my inner Dude 24/7 has made work a lot more pleasant, not to mention dealing with some of my more high strung coworkers, family members and friends.
The hardest part for me was allowing the answering machine or voicemail get the calls once I got home, especially if they weren't urgent but I finally got over that now.
This Dude wonders if she even needs her cell phone anymore; I hardly have it with me... ???
Phone goes in the bedroom with the uniform while I go roam the house and take care of things. If it's not important I'll get to it when I get to it. If it's important? Well those who are in the need know my home phone number and know it rings twice before answering machine picks up. I've always had a serious dislike for telephones for some reason. Even as a kid, picking up the phone to call someone or some place always gave me a mini-anxiety attack. Even now when I order pizza or something I usually go down to the place and order in person.
Cell phones I've always despised and only reason I even carry one is because the job pays for it and forces me too. But that might just be social stigma. Cell Phones and Mini-Vans can't stand them because those are the two types of people on the road who are always trying to kill me on my motorcycle lol.
I just refuse to elt a hunk of plastic try to control me like I see it do to some. Friends have those blackberry and iPhone things and they look at them every 5 seconds. I just don't get it.
I dig that takin-er-easy vibe resonating through your posts TBA.
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 28, 2013, 11:47:56 PM
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 06:26:30 PM
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 28, 2013, 04:41:43 PM
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 01:17:37 PM
sure dude - i wasn't trying to be critical or nothing by the way.
No worries, man. I didn't take anything any particular way. 8)
Quote from: Boston Rockbury on April 28, 2013, 01:17:37 PM
Seemed to be a serious sub-text to the humour and my training as a therapist got the better of me.
Isn't there/shouldn't there be some kind of 12 step program or drug therapy for that shit? ;D
i got the drug regime sorted man :)
Oh if it wasn't for random drug testing at work lol... Quote from: Easy McRider on April 28, 2013, 05:04:36 PM
This thread needs to be in book or something, a wise and dudely book too...
And to be honest, I had thought about cleaning up the threads and expanding on certain things and seeing about submitting it for the Dudespaper, but doubt anyone would want to read more of my ramblings lol
I think the main gist of this thread should be popped on the Dudespaper or something. As a view to coming around to abiding and taking 'er easy. And what can happen if not.
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 30, 2013, 08:12:16 AM
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 29, 2013, 11:20:16 AM
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 29, 2013, 10:02:41 AM
They ever legalize it though and I'm using one week of my vacation.
That's a suck about legalization here in Colorado: Employers can still require testing and can still fire yer ass for failing on THC metabolites alone.
The place where my wife works gets fed money so they warned her when Amendment 64 passed that testing and termination could happen even though the state considers marijuana legal. I'm thinkin' that civilization is too generous a term for what we do here in the US.
Yeah it's tough trying to sort out the laws and regs. Buddy of mine and I had wanted to do a road trip to Vegas on our motorcycles. Camp on the road that sort of thing. Took me two weeks to trace the route and figure out the law per state as far as open camping and if camp fires and such were allowed. Then I attempted to figure out the legality of bringing some sort of defense with us should we run into any Nihilists on the road and just about gave up there. Need to make it simple:
Legal: Act like a dude and be dudely to one another
Illegal: Not being dudely
Quote from: Chaplain K on April 29, 2013, 03:53:21 PM
Gotta admit that tapping into and bringing out my inner Dude 24/7 has made work a lot more pleasant, not to mention dealing with some of my more high strung coworkers, family members and friends.
The hardest part for me was allowing the answering machine or voicemail get the calls once I got home, especially if they weren't urgent but I finally got over that now.
This Dude wonders if she even needs her cell phone anymore; I hardly have it with me... ???
Phone goes in the bedroom with the uniform while I go roam the house and take care of things. If it's not important I'll get to it when I get to it. If it's important? Well those who are in the need know my home phone number and know it rings twice before answering machine picks up. I've always had a serious dislike for telephones for some reason. Even as a kid, picking up the phone to call someone or some place always gave me a mini-anxiety attack. Even now when I order pizza or something I usually go down to the place and order in person.
Cell phones I've always despised and only reason I even carry one is because the job pays for it and forces me too. But that might just be social stigma. Cell Phones and Mini-Vans can't stand them because those are the two types of people on the road who are always trying to kill me on my motorcycle lol.
I just refuse to elt a hunk of plastic try to control me like I see it do to some. Friends have those blackberry and iPhone things and they look at them every 5 seconds. I just don't get it.
I dig you on that phone comment Dude. I'm still in school, so I see all of these people (my age) just staring mindlessly into their phones. We'll all be sitting around eating lunch, and I'll be talking to my friend Stuart (a Dude at heart) and then I'll look around and see that everyone else is glued to the iPhone. It gets pretty annoying, and it worries me about how these people will be when they are adults.
Plus when they have kids I'm sure there will be some kind of advancement in technology that will just push it a step further. It's the end of face-to-face socializing
Quote from: Easy McRider on April 30, 2013, 04:39:52 PM
I think the main gist of this thread should be popped on the Dudespaper or something. As a view to coming around to abiding and taking 'er easy. And what can happen if not.
I'm gonna write an e-mail tomorrow to the contacts of the dudespaper I think. I'm somewhat of an amateur writer so it would probably be fun, just probably need to get some guidelines and outline down as to what would be useful.
Also, just got something in the mail today :D
(http://i282.photobucket.com/albums/kk277/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/Photography/th_b576f684-b09c-4dd0-98e7-3a974db604f3_zps1c8cc13c.jpg) (http://s282.photobucket.com/user/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/media/Photography/b576f684-b09c-4dd0-98e7-3a974db604f3_zps1c8cc13c.jpg.html)
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 30, 2013, 11:10:46 PM
Also, just got something in the mail today :D
(http://i282.photobucket.com/albums/kk277/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/Photography/th_b576f684-b09c-4dd0-98e7-3a974db604f3_zps1c8cc13c.jpg) (http://s282.photobucket.com/user/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/media/Photography/b576f684-b09c-4dd0-98e7-3a974db604f3_zps1c8cc13c.jpg.html)
Must have been quite a surprise when that cat jumped out the box.
Yeah, he was not happy with the shipping envelope (kidding, that's just little dude, who's very happy since I've changed everything around. Means I'm home more often and he's got a lap to sit in again)
Quote from: This Dude Abides on May 01, 2013, 08:51:31 AM
Yeah, he was not happy with the shipping envelope (kidding, that's just little dude, who's very happy since I've changed everything around. Means I'm home more often and he's got a lap to sit in again)
Little Dude really kinda ties the photo together.
Groovy collection of dude-cuments and patches. Makes me feel like putting in an order.
Quote from: This Dude Abides on April 30, 2013, 11:10:46 PM
Quote from: Easy McRider on April 30, 2013, 04:39:52 PM
I think the main gist of this thread should be popped on the Dudespaper or something. As a view to coming around to abiding and taking 'er easy. And what can happen if not.
I'm gonna write an e-mail tomorrow to the contacts of the dudespaper I think. I'm somewhat of an amateur writer so it would probably be fun, just probably need to get some guidelines and outline down as to what would be useful.
Also, just got something in the mail today :D
(http://i282.photobucket.com/albums/kk277/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/Photography/th_b576f684-b09c-4dd0-98e7-3a974db604f3_zps1c8cc13c.jpg) (http://s282.photobucket.com/user/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/media/Photography/b576f684-b09c-4dd0-98e7-3a974db604f3_zps1c8cc13c.jpg.html)
I'll look out for it in that fine piece of Dudely papyrus...
WOOHOO! Another ordination pack, when I got mine I framed my certificate for over the fire ;D Popped the sticker on the car too. Only the other day I got undertaken by another Dudeist trying to show me his sticker ;D but that's cool, that's cool.
Honestly can't say I've seen another sticker yet but I'm looking for them. I've gotten a few questions about it though and I'm always more then willing to share the word of the Dude to those who ask.
As an un-related note, I found a very interesting relaxation tool to keep the mind limber while I'm in the office
http://weavesilk.com/ (http://weavesilk.com/)
Music and you can make some really interesting stuff with it. Spent about 10 minutes this morning and came out with this:
(http://i282.photobucket.com/albums/kk277/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/WeaveSilk/th_index2_zps0508e328.png) (http://s282.photobucket.com/user/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/media/WeaveSilk/index2_zps0508e328.png.html)
(http://i282.photobucket.com/albums/kk277/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/WeaveSilk/th_index_zps66a067fc.png) (http://s282.photobucket.com/user/Teutonic_Knight_Funnay/media/WeaveSilk/index_zps66a067fc.png.html)
Surprising what you can come up with.
Rock on Dude!!! 8)
Lots of good dude-like thoughts here, dudes.
Quote from: RighteousDude on April 20, 2013, 10:20:01 PM
Quote from: Father Dude on April 20, 2013, 08:30:01 PM
I work in an Emergency Room. Let me tell you, those fascists are something else.
Hospitals are dens of evil. Apparently, in order to succeed in a career in a hospital you have to have a mental age of 12 and be mean as hell.
they are evil man! my mom worked at the local hospital here for like 15 years when she got diagnosed with cancer and had to take time off of work. they told her just to bring the paperwork back when her dr oked her to return to work and then they fired her like 2 weeks later for not turning the paperwork in on time :(
Well TDA? How's the abiding going nowadays? Hope your rug remained unpeed upon... As for the stickers, keep on looking out. I found the owner of the last one and went to a wee minidudestock with some others on here. The dude certainly abides...