I'm in 2 minds, should I just take it easy and sit through another 2 years, or should I follow the dudely way and ask to spend time taking it easy while the christians attend the service? At the moment, it's a real mountainous plane crash to me.
Of course, there's always the problem they won't take me seriously...
Your thoughts?
Is this a university-mandated chapel service attendance? Or parents, spouse?
its done at my college,
the school do say they are respectful to peoples religions and sexuality and all of that stuff so i don't see why they wouldn't, and they offer services for other religions like muslims and hindus...
"Mandatory"....that's just like their opinion, man.
You have to stick by your principles dude!
I was made a catholic by my parents....rejected that shit at the age of 5.
When I joined the military they had compulsory church service on a Sunday....but it wasn't compulsory in actual fact!
I refused to attend Sunday service in basic training and they immediately backed down....marched me to the church every Sunday....but couldn't make me go in...I had to go to the DI's crewroom and make them tea then sit with them in their crewroom for an hour and half!! No pain .... no pain at all!!!
Was told to shut the fuck up and not talk about anything I heard in there.... but hey...part of military training...keeping secrets!
Do what your inner dude tells you mate! :)
Quote from: anthonyabidesdude on September 09, 2012, 04:50:04 PM
I'm in 2 minds, should I just take it easy and sit through another 2 years, or should I follow the dudely way and ask to spend time taking it easy while the christians attend the service? At the moment, it's a real mountainous plane crash to me.
Of course, there's always the problem they won't take me seriously...
Your thoughts?
So not to pry too much but may I ask which school you attend? It sounds like a Christian type college. I'm just trying to understand if there was something in the by-laws that said you had to go. I know that if you were in Utah and attended Brigham Young University, I would say you're basically fucked if you want to continue there.
I had a buddy at a private Christian college in Texas that actually checked attendance by having the students swipe their ID cards upon walking in. That buddy got in trouble when it was found out his friend was swiping his card for him so he could just skip.
That being said, if you're going to a private religious school, be prepared to deal with all the rules that go with that.
Or something.
Yeah... Private schools pretty much bone you. But, if one is willing then finding a new school would be optimal if you don't want to attend those services.
Quote from: rev-jaholbrook on September 09, 2012, 09:18:54 PM
Quote from: anthonyabidesdude on September 09, 2012, 04:50:04 PM
I'm in 2 minds, should I just take it easy and sit through another 2 years, or should I follow the dudely way and ask to spend time taking it easy while the christians attend the service? At the moment, it's a real mountainous plane crash to me.
Of course, there's always the problem they won't take me seriously...
Your thoughts?
So not to pry too much but may I ask which school you attend? It sounds like a Christian type college. I'm just trying to understand if there was something in the by-laws that said you had to go. I know that if you were in Utah and attended Brigham Young University, I would say you're basically fucked if you want to continue there.
I go to Epsom College, it's in Surrey, England...
I see. So is it in writing that you would have to attend these services? If so, then you would probably either have to stick it out or look for higher education elsewhere. Which may not be an option. My advice is if you are stuck with it, make the best of it. When I was in basic training we had the option of doing to a church service on Sunday or staying behind to work and clean. If nothing else use it as a way to network for when you are finished and need outside business related contacts for job opportunities.
Unrelated, but man I'm really digging the number of people from the UK that are into Dudeism.
Is Anthonyabidesdude possibly the poshest dude here? ;)
Please don't spend your time there occupying various administration buildings and smoking Thai sticks...that wouldn't be right at 10 grand a term!! :)
Peace dude.
Hey man just because it's expensive doesn't mean I'm posh! My dad worked up to get where he is now many years ago, and I'm fortunate to have the opportunity to go to such a school (even if there is a large group of non-abideds that I swim against everyday)
My point is this, would it be justified to attempt to get this chapel service time given to me to allow me to practice something a whole lot more dude than the chapel service?
In that case see if they can allow it. A good school is a good school. If that is what you want then go for it. And I think C-dude was just teasing.... Don't sweat it guy. You'll find your way.
Yeah man I was just taking the piss. ;)
Your a dude after all else you wouldn't be here.
I am serious now though....it may be best to bite your tongue and hold your principles...don't buck this massive authority that have your future in store.
Your friends will know how you feel...even some of the teachers....remember teachers are just slacking from getting a real job...most of them are cool.
Best of all. Take it easy. You will always be a dude no matter how many church services they make you attend....take your own abideist guide to service and read it there! :)
Peace my priveleged friend. :)
Yeah I get what you mean, I won't go in there all undude, I'll just speak to the reverand or whoever...
Tony dude.There comes a time in every life,mostly,when you have to wade through the swamp to get to dry land.You know dude where that dry land is. The swamp is full of mozzies and if you want to protect yourself then I can only reccomend the Skeptics Annotated Bible (google it)Good luck dude.
If you're not Christian I don't see how they can force you to go. If you end up having to go then you can at least sit there and have your own more Dudely thoughts than the ones the priests are trying to force on you. :)
I jump on this forum from time to time, and I felt I needed to finally make an account and begin posting. This thread compelled me to do so because I have been in your situation for almost 6 years.
A few words as to my dude life.
As a Dude that is finally moving onto to higher education at the conclusion of this school year, I cannot fathom myself going to a public university. The thought of being free of the bigotry, jingoism, and intolerance that the administration graces thrills me beyond words. Even today, I have to hide and feel ashamed of myself to my friends and faculty. In the 6 years, I have been attending my International Baptist Academy the administration and some faculty have persecuted me, discriminated against me and purposely denied me into groups/clubs based upon my decision to be a left-leaning non-Christian. Unfortunate as it is, the quality of my education is here is much higher than at any public school. I have to go off campus to hold hands with my boyfriend even. Throughout each day, I hear of bible verses and Christian "principles" that directly contradict my views, yet I find myself more "Christ-like" than most of the chaplains. Sermon after sermon declaring gays to be the scum of the Earth, I sit back hiding my face, ashamed to be myself.
My advice to you is to keep on abiding. I have made it through 6 years of hell, I am positive you can remain a dude for however long you need to. Like others said, you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink. You get rather good at saying Fuck It and just marking it zero anyways after wading through such bigotry for so long. I can tell you first hand it causes much more trouble than it is worth to make a big deal out of things, even if you don't give a shit about the rules anymore, one must still acknowledge them and mark it zero lest you be thrown out of the tournament.
-Sorry for the out of dude text.
I believe I have found a solution somewhat, my friend and I, (a person who is not entirely dude but has respect for my way of life) sit through these services, enjoy belting out the hymns at unbearably loud volumes, (very undude, but hey, it's fun to let the walter out, chapel is like 'nam) and sit through the rest chatting and making each other laugh. I've found my dry land, my friends.