A dude in love

[Bullett00th]

M'kay, since you said I could here's my zesty thought : speaking of sugar, she's going to have her concentrated fructose from you as well...

It's a very nice!

[Dan Dando]

I'm struggling with soppy feelings at the moment too. There's this girl (isn't there always) who I've felt very strongly about for.. nearly.. a couple of years now. I love her, but then again I'm only 24 years old and I'm constantly wondering whether I know the meaning of the word. She knows how I feel about her and even though she's intimated to me in the past that she does think a lot of me.. I'm pretty sure that she'll never feel the same way as I do no matter how much I hope for that. The problem is that before these feelings were born we were very close friends, still are.. in fact, but I'm really struggling/sucking at being a friend right now. She seems quite comfortable and happy with the way that our relationship is at the moment... but my heart just feels like it's aching for days and days after I see her. She's a wonderful lady but I can't help but wonder if it would be better if we weren't friends as I'm finding it really tricky to mentally move on when she's a constant in my life. I should just man up and be thankful that I have such a great friendship, but I'm really struggling at the moment 

[Bullett00th]

I'm struggling with soppy feelings at the moment too. There's this girl (isn't there always) who I've felt very strongly about for.. nearly.. a couple of years now. I love her, but then again I'm only 24 years old and I'm constantly wondering whether I know the meaning of the word. She knows how I feel about her and even though she's intimated to me in the past that she does think a lot of me.. I'm pretty sure that she'll never feel the same way as I do no matter how much I hope for that. The problem is that before these feelings were born we were very close friends, still are.. in fact, but I'm really struggling/sucking at being a friend right now. She seems quite comfortable and happy with the way that our relationship is at the moment... but my heart just feels like it's aching for days and days after I see her. She's a wonderful lady but I can't help but wonder if it would be better if we weren't friends as I'm finding it really tricky to mentally move on when she's a constant in my life. I should just man up and be thankful that I have such a great friendship, but I'm really struggling at the moment 

be thankful about being in the friendzone, especially when she knows? nah mate. I say go for it. if you are friends and you see each other often, this just fuels your feelings. and if you aree really good friends, a relationship should be even better.

she may never feel the same way as you do, but does it matter? if you truly love a person, you give and expect nothing back. NOTHING. this way you will never be disapointed and only be happy if you do get something back.


being realistic, your push may ruin your friendship if she really isn't into the idea, but either way something has to be sacrificed.
My current situation with the aforementioned girl is quite difficult atm, but I keep pushing. I just have no choice now. a great confidence boost too

[jdurand]

When my wife and I announced our engagement both our mothers said "it's about time!".  I was 25 at the time, that was back in the stone age (not to be mistaken with the stoned age, that was when my wife was a hippie).

[Judd Dude]

Glad to see things are(sort of) working out for you bullett. You seem like a cool soul, and cool souls deserve happiness man.

@dan dando- man I feel for ya. I went thru a lot of that in my late teens early 20's. it was pure torture and I was constantly filled with angst and always brooding. As time went on I began thinking why waste my time on girls who won't waste time on me? It's really helped to sort out the keepers from the toss-back'ers along my life's journey. Sure I had a few along the way that were very un-dude, but I found that out soon enough and moved on. My point I guess is it shouldn't be all out work trying to get someone to notice you. I believe it should just happen naturally, perhaps from a simple hello. Good luck man.

[Bullett00th]

Glad to see things are(sort of) working out for you bullett. You seem like a cool soul, and cool souls deserve happiness man.

thanks mate, but I've given up. after a time I simply understood that she won't let me go any further but she doesn't push me away either, and this started growing old, feelings or not. later on I found out she was playing the same game with 2 more guys. both from the place we work at. made moving on a whole lot easier, I should have listened to Eddie

that said, I regret nothing. my feelings for her were EXTREMELY strong and I went out of my way and did things I would otherwise never do to win her appreciation. in the end of the day what I got was experience and a good boost in confidence, just knowing what I can do if I really want to.
And I'm glad to be back to the more dudely way of life with a healthy portion of 'fuck it' attitude

[Havazhyol]

I should have listened to Eddie

Thanks dude, I just pissed my pants.
I did not know Mr Ed made stand up shows. Here in Froggyland he is known for his movies. Gotta find the whole show now, I loved this part ^^.

Many thanks again BTdude.

[Bullett00th]

I should have listened to Eddie

Thanks dude, I just pissed my pants.
I did not know Mr Ed made stand up shows. Here in Froggyland he is known for his movies. Gotta find the whole show now, I loved this part ^^.

Many thanks again BTdude.

no problem. I myself discovered his standup career relatively recently, maybe 2 years ago, but that was way before his movie career. if you ask me, he's a better standup comedian than he is an actor. not that I'm saying he's not a great actor, but he IS a phenomenal comedian. at the age of 21 he was gathering a full stadium and made them piss their pants laughing.

this video is from Raw, but there is no full version of it on Youtube as far as I know.

There's another one, Delirious, I suggest you watch it first.

The guy hilarious

[Judd Dude]

Hey bullet, just read your reply. Well that's a fuckin bummer it didn't work out, but better now than later when your heavily invested in it all. Least you learned some things about yourself and got a 'boost', and I like the fuck it approach you took. Very a propos in this case man. Take 'er easy dude.

[Masked Dude]

As someone who's eternally single, I hope you find your special lady soon.

[Bullett00th]

Hey bullet, just read your reply. Well that's a fuckin bummer it didn't work out, but better now than later when your heavily invested in it all. Least you learned some things about yourself and got a 'boost', and I like the fuck it approach you took. Very a propos in this case man. Take 'er easy dude.

thanks Judd! It's all good in the end, we still communicate normally despite the initial awkwardness, but the important thing here is that I tried. Doubts are pointless
I'd say there's a dudely approach to this: knowing when to let people go. It's damn important, especially in love, because I'll be damned if it's not the strongest drug I know. Literally.

As someone who's eternally single, I hope you find your special lady soon.

Thanks buddy, you too. I'm single most of the time as well, but that's nothing to cry about, really. the less you truly care, the more fine with yourself you become and the more people pull towards you. ladies always need extra effort from you of course, and that is why so many dudes are single

[BikerDude]

In my opinion it's best to not put labels on things.
If you dig her let her know. It's not hitting on her. So she's not your special lady friend.
You are only a paraquat if you try to score behind her old mans back.
If her old man is uptight about you digging her and showing it then he is being very undude. and will probably not be able to hang. Long as nobody is being uncool and lying it's all good.
Hey if she really is a cool chick then it's likely her old man is cool also.
Disarm the situation and hang with both of them.
Don't put labels on things. It's all just people.
Roll with the flow. Make the world bigger not smaller.

[Bullett00th]

I don't know her family, she's from another town.

I do have a tendency of good relationships with a girl's parents, but experience showed it does nothing to help the relationship with the girl

[ProudDogWeather]

Help me, fellow dudes!

I seem to have sunk my thoughts into a girl at work, but it's the first time I completely cannot figure her out. She seems interested, but is very careful, distancing and a bit sad.

Recently I discovered she's been dating someone who she can't be with anymore because they live far away and you know how long distance relationships are.

Thing is, I can't hit on girls who are with someone, even if they are up for it. It's just very undude in my book, and simply goes against the bro code. I've been in situations where I dated someone who knew she was the love interest of a different guy, and used him. At first I didn't care, but things turned out in such a way that I got to know the guy, and he's very dude. It just feels wrong to even try deprive him of his chance.


Now I'm in a seemingly similar situation, but I've lost it and it's bad. What do you say dudes, should I just go for it or would it be very undude? I would hate myself if I became the reason of a couple's breakup...


What would the Dude do?

Fuckin eh about the hitting on girls in relation ships no matter what but I think you should wait till after the break up than say would you like to have dinner with me hope I can or did help good luck friend