Humbly Requesting Assistance with a Dudeist Ceremony

Started by hotmaildotcom1, June 24, 2013, 12:41:38 AM

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hotmaildotcom1

My fellow Dudes. I might not be an extremely active participant in our forums, but the dude is a lazy man. Being a lazy man he is very prone to procrastination. While trying to spread the good word of dudeism, I have had the pleasure to sign on to perform a dudeist wedding. Unfortunately I have procrastinated quite a bit and am not very prepared. I hardly know where to start with such an undertaking, and with less than two weeks until W-Day I don't want to be left lying face down in the muck. Any help that anyone could offer would be fantastic. I have combed the forums vigorously, so I have quite a bit written down. Any additional information, or even veteran minister help would be legendary. Thank you 

hotmaildotcom1

Also there are no legal items that need taken care of, its just a ceremony.

DigitalBuddha

Quote from: hotmaildotcom1 on June 24, 2013, 12:41:38 AM
My fellow Dudes. I might not be an extremely active participant in our forums, but the dude is a lazy man. Being a lazy man he is very prone to procrastination. While trying to spread the good word of dudeism, I have had the pleasure to sign on to perform a dudeist wedding. Unfortunately I have procrastinated quite a bit and am not very prepared. I hardly know where to start with such an undertaking, and with less than two weeks until W-Day I don't want to be left lying face down in the muck. Any help that anyone could offer would be fantastic. I have combed the forums vigorously, so I have quite a bit written down. Any additional information, or even veteran minister help would be legendary. Thank you 

Hey hotmaildotcom1 dude, welcome to our beach community, mang. Bars' over there. Good to have you here!

MindAbiding

Hey Dude,

What are some specifics that this beach community can help you out with?  I've never presided over a wedding as a Dudeist priest, but I've done 8 or 9 ceremonies as a generic "internet minister."  Happy to provide whatever notes I can.

The clouds above us come together and disperse;
The breeze in the courtyard departs and returns.
Life is like that, so why not relax?
Who can keep us from celebrating?
- Lu-Yu

hotmaildotcom1

Something that has really been buggin the dude are the in's and out's of what it even means to be a minister. What services should I be providing? I know there should be some ramblin' done by  myself, but I don't know how much or about what? What does this beach community think is formal, informal attire for a dudeist priest? I'm in the search for a tanish bathrobe and some plad shorts, I'm thinking it'll mimic robes for other cerimonies. Or should I go the dude inspired patterened sweatshirt route?
I have some notes from a former dudes wedding, a fella that goes by the name of Hiku I think. They have been providing quite a good framework, but I'm worried that the short length could crash the whole plane into the mountain.
Honestly any notes you have period would be a wonderful way to keep this dude's mind limber. Whether they be directly or in-directly dude related. How did your "generic" weddings play out, or was there an overall structure to them at all?
Thanks again for your help dudes, I just kinda woke up one mornin' and realized that her life was in my hands.

Masked Dude

I would ask the couple how formal it is. I'd even tell them why. If they don't care, hell, dude, wear your favorite shirt and shorts! Be comfy and shoes are optional.

One thing you should note: Once you sign the marriage license, bring it to the appropriate office the next business day or soon after. (I'm writing a book on this and the time varies.)

Most of all, talk to the couple, have fun, and get your matrimonial dudeness on!
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MindAbiding

Hey Dude,

The beauty of any plan is its simplicity. I will echo Masked Dude and recommend a simple conversation with the couple about all the things that you're not certain about.   I'd sit down and work through the way they want the ceremony to go-- ask if there are any funny stories or messages they want you to be sure to communicate and work on the thing together. Also, as Masked Dude said, just ask them how formal/informal they want the ceremony to be.

You don't need to have all the answers for them (hell, if they wanted that they probably would have been better off with a justice of the peace or something).  You will probably need to work out some sincere parts of the ceremony, as well as parts that make you laugh to beat the band.  After all, grandma is likely to be there.

Keep us updated on your progress and most of all have some fun!



Quote from: hotmaildotcom1 on June 24, 2013, 03:55:41 PM
Something that has really been buggin the dude are the in's and out's of what it even means to be a minister. What services should I be providing? I know there should be some ramblin' done by  myself, but I don't know how much or about what? What does this beach community think is formal, informal attire for a dudeist priest? I'm in the search for a tanish bathrobe and some plad shorts, I'm thinking it'll mimic robes for other cerimonies. Or should I go the dude inspired patterened sweatshirt route?
I have some notes from a former dudes wedding, a fella that goes by the name of Hiku I think. They have been providing quite a good framework, but I'm worried that the short length could crash the whole plane into the mountain.
Honestly any notes you have period would be a wonderful way to keep this dude's mind limber. Whether they be directly or in-directly dude related. How did your "generic" weddings play out, or was there an overall structure to them at all?
Thanks again for your help dudes, I just kinda woke up one mornin' and realized that her life was in my hands.
The clouds above us come together and disperse;
The breeze in the courtyard departs and returns.
Life is like that, so why not relax?
Who can keep us from celebrating?
- Lu-Yu

hotmaildotcom1

So the wedding is happening tomorrow. I'm not going to lie, I have leaned heavily on the dude community and former dudes for support. My ceremony will be short, sweet, and a compilation of other ceremonies with my own twist. I hope that they can see it in their hearts to forgive me for my laziness, as the dude certainly is lazy. I have though given proper credit to all my sources. Thank you dudes for all your help. Ill try to throw some pictures up after the big bang. :)

DigitalBuddha

Quote from: hotmaildotcom1 on July 03, 2013, 12:52:53 AM
So the wedding is happening tomorrow. I'm not going to lie, I have leaned heavily on the dude community and former dudes for support. My ceremony will be short, sweet, and a compilation of other ceremonies with my own twist. I hope that they can see it in their hearts to forgive me for my laziness, as the dude certainly is lazy. I have though given proper credit to all my sources. Thank you dudes for all your help. Ill try to throw some pictures up after the big bang. :)

...Mr. Lebowski asked me to repeat that: their life is in your hands. Their life is in your hands, Dude. Report back to us as soon as it's done. 8)

Smithy Dude