Fuck It, Can't be Worried About that Shit

[DudeAbides 1983]

I have spent the majority of my life on this earth acting like a total Walter, sadly. I love him in the movie but I see myself in him more than I would like. Sweating the small shit, being an aggressive prick and being willing to fight anyone to prove a goddamn point. Being excessive would be accurate.

Really a major waste of time and energy. When I realized I was doing this I also spent a great deal of time acting like an asshole nihilist.

Now that I don't want to see Karl Hungus or Walter in the mirror anymore, I have found I have a tough time letting go of my past mistakes. I have made so many that are embarrassing and just plain wrong. I know I should just say "fuck it" but sometimes those thoughts are still there.

My main question is how do you dudes handle this type of thinking and how would the dude handle it?

[BikerDude]

IMHO it's about balance.
Nobody can be all Walter or all Dude.
If you're constantly pulling a loader weapon during league play yer headed for a world of pain.
But, sadly if you aren't swimming against the tide you are circling the drain.
Being prepared to do the right thing?  Whatever the price? 
Isn't that what makes a man?
Or just a pair of testicles?
It's at least a bit of the first.
I mean otherwise like Donnie says, what does a dude need his Johnson for?

As far as past mistakes. Be Dude. Learn to say fuck it.
The Dude is often undude.
I believe sometimes you need to be undude. And should be undude.
No way around it.

[RighteousDude]

Forgive yourself, man. Give yourself permission to be human, and declare yourself good enough by decree, starting now, and then live that way. Do your level best to avoid having an opinion -- there is no chance at all that you know all of the ins and outs and what have yous that would entitle you to one. Accept that you'll probably never have a truly original thought in your whole life, so there's no reason to make a fucking point. And if the other guy is as wrong as dating outside one's species, let him be unless he's doing harm.

It's easier said than done, but it's worth the effort to do it. My special lady and I have a saying that we use at every opportunity: NMP. "Not My Problem".  If it's NMP I don't have to fix it, worry about it, think about it, or even know of it.

http://youtu.be/3k-0rskSk_c

Relax into life, Dude. You can't force it.

[BikerDude]

An example of the folly of being over Walter as embodied in the wrath of Khan.

Joachim: We're all with you, sir. But, consider this. We are free. We have a ship, and the means to go where we will. We have escaped permanent exile on Ceti Alpha V. You have defeated the plans of Admiral Kirk. You do not need to defeat him again.


Khan: He tasks me. He tasks me and I shall have him! I'll chase him 'round the moons of Nibia and 'round the Antares Maelstrom and 'round Perdition's flames before I give him up!

This sort of thing ends badly.
If one must go this route, then take a breath and retire to your subterranean lair where you can smoke a fattie and plan the perfect crime.
Don't let em task you.
Fuck it; or get even. In a methodical laid back Dudeist way.
Sort of like the dark side of batman.

It's quite possible we may actually be looking at some kind of super-sanity here. A brilliant new modification of human perception, more suited to urban life at the end of the twentieth century...He creates himself each day. He sees himself as the lord of misrule and the world as a theatre of the absurd.

Batman: Arkham Asylum

Batman says "fuck the rules. I'm Batman."
The Dude does likewise.
Batman is Dude. With his Johnson.

I'm blathering...

Peace out.

[DudeAbides 1983]

I dig your styles dudes...thanks for some of these very Eastern (or far from it) thoughts.

There were a lot of strands in the old duder's head about old shit and regret, but you're right can't change it, so fuck it. All I should be doing now is abiding and making things right by my special lady friend and my mini-dudes. Making sure my outward facing door and rug is in place in my private residence.

Love the Batman quote as well. I dig the caped crusader's style.

[BikerDude]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_IUe-XKQzQ

[DudeAbides 1983]

Between the wisdom, my new favorite Buffet song, and this awesome Lebowski300 mashup video I am very glad I posted this question!

[RighteousDude]

You need some more Buffett, Dude! There's another abiding Jeff in film history, he being the great Spicoli whose theme is here.

Aloha Mister Hand!

[A Stoned Buddha]

The only "time" that has actually ever existed is now. Right now. The past? Only memories. The future? Only ideas. The whole universe that has/will ever exist, only will exist right now. That's all there has ever been! The past does not exist, in any way, and can never change the present, unless someone (you) says that it does. Live now, for now. You have habits of thought, patterns of thinking that cause you suffering and you want to change that. Fine. There are numerous games out there you can play to do so. The real question is, how hard are you going to make it for yourself? What will it take for you to "feel" like you've earned the peace of mind that you so badly desire? It can be a long road to get back to where you already are. May I humbly suggest a book, THE book actually. The Book (On the taboo of knowing who you really are) by Alan Watts. It makes good kindling as well! Happy Hunting!

[DudeAbides 1983]

Thanks man, I will check that book out.
I suppose maybe it was my red-state, Baptist-style upbringing that ingrained me with the idea that any bad stuff you do WILL screw you. You WILL be punished. Although I gave up on that religion a long time ago and feel very free without it's oppressive crush on my shoulders, maybe some of the action-guilt-punishment thing stuck with me in my subconscious.  3000 years of beautiful tradition, maybe living in the past like Walter became a big part of my life and a habit of mine.

[RighteousDude]

Gotta watch out for those bad mental habits, man. They'll screw ya every time.

Honestly, I don't know how anyone of your generation doesn't turn out to be a violent criminal. Over-parented, with great and unwarranted fear and guilt and shame instilled from the time you might appear to be forming your own opinions, little to no unstructured play time, normality pathologized and resistance to programming medicated with dangerous psych drugs... holy fucking shit, man, I'd have become a psycho killer.

You probably haven't even yet begun to explore just how much the motherfuckers lied to you. That's okay -- it'll keep. Wait until you've got your abide well on before you investigate that shit. If you approach it with a rigid mind it'll piss you off to no end.

All of that shit that people do to their children, the shit that was done to you and your peers, it began in the early 1980's or thereabout. The world was very different just a few years prior, much more conducive to the spontaneous development of Dudes. That you're even leaning in that direction is a testament to your native wisdom.

[A Stoned Buddha]

Thanks man, I will check that book out.
I suppose maybe it was my red-state, Baptist-style upbringing that ingrained me with the idea that any bad stuff you do WILL screw you. You WILL be punished. Although I gave up on that religion a long time ago and feel very free without it's oppressive crush on my shoulders, maybe some of the action-guilt-punishment thing stuck with me in my subconscious.  3000 years of beautiful tradition, maybe living in the past like Walter became a big part of my life and a habit of mine.

Of course it is. You didn't come into this world, you came out of it. We all are products of the world in which we grow. And by the way, I don't think Christians are completely wrong, I think most are just misguided. They've been tangled up in the religion about Christ, instead of the religion OF Christ and they just can't see the difference. "When a man reaches the heart of his own religion, he has reached the heart of all religion." a feller wiser than me once said. Just take it easy man.

[cckeiser]

Thanks man, I will check that book out.
I suppose maybe it was my red-state, Baptist-style upbringing that ingrained me with the idea that any bad stuff you do WILL screw you. You WILL be punished. Although I gave up on that religion a long time ago and feel very free without it's oppressive crush on my shoulders, maybe some of the action-guilt-punishment thing stuck with me in my subconscious.  3000 years of beautiful tradition, maybe living in the past like Walter became a big part of my life and a habit of mine.

Of course it is. You didn't come into this world, you came out of it. We all are products of the world in which we grow. And by the way, I don't think Christians are completely wrong, I think most are just misguided. They've been tangled up in the religion about Christ, instead of the religion OF Christ and they just can't see the difference. "When a man reaches the heart of his own religion, he has reached the heart of all religion." a feller wiser than me once said. Just take it easy man.

[DudeAbides 1983]

I have taken a lot of this to thought, and also spent a good part of the last few days unplugging from the TV and chilling out more. Been spending a lot quality time with my kids as well and reminding myself THIS moment is what it's all about for me. Even took a nap today, which I hardly ever do, and unplugged from all the electronics this afternoon. Unplugging and being out of the media stream is as good for the soul as I have heard it was. Mindless consumerism can only fill you up for so long. As a wiser fella once said, "A rich man knows when he has enough."

So far this year I have been eating the bar, instead of the other way around. Thanks for the words of wisdom dudes.

[RighteousDude]

I have taken a lot of this to thought, and also spent a good part of the last few days unplugging from the TV and chilling out more. Been spending a lot quality time with my kids as well and reminding myself THIS moment is what it's all about for me. Even took a nap today, which I hardly ever do, and unplugged from all the electronics this afternoon. Unplugging and being out of the media stream is as good for the soul as I have heard it was.

Thanks for updating us with this new shit, man. It's fuckin' great to know that it's working well for you. The corporate media wants you to be afraid and dissatisfied, but if you turn them off you'll have a lot less fear and dissatisfaction just because most of the shit they feed you isn't even real. Some of it might actually be factual, but that doesn't make it real.

Keep on abidin' Dude.