A topic in which to wander.

[Rev. Ed C]

*rubs temples a little*

Ok, I'm sensing a pattern here... 

Am I really not as good at being a peacemaker and a voice of reason as I used to be, or am I coming up against people that are generally blowing their stacks?  I've never gotten angry once on this forum, and I've certainly not intended to cause any, but I was under the impression that Dudes didn't really get angry, they came together, bonded and kept on abiding 

There seems to be a new definition of a dude around here that they somehow just come for a laugh, can say whatever they like no matter if what they say might be insensitive, and anyone who calls them on it and asks them to step back and chill is not a real dude.  I don't think running around and getting angry is dudely, nor is discussing things without patience and rationality.

Am I really missing a trick about being a Dude, that you don't have to be nice, you just have to say "fuck it" and have a good time?  Because I'm not into selfish hedonism, and if that's how people roll around here then I guess I don't fit in.

But I don't believe that's true.  These are recent problems with people displaying tension and aggression and forgetting what it means to be a dude.  Reason, calm, chill, abiding...  There seems to be less forgive and forget and more blame, indignation and "Aww c'mon, what the fucking fuck, man?!?!?!  "

Am I really missing the point, and are my own words really perceived as anything but trying to be calm, empathetic and reasonable here? 

If I'm not helping, someone just tell me without leaving in a storm and I'll listen.

[Rev. Ed C]

I guess that was an unfinished thought back there of mine...


The sort of response I was hoping for when pointing out that the post didn't come across as much of a joke was something like:

"Sorry, it was meant to be a joke... Let me make it clearer."

Not:

"What the fuck?!? Fuck you!!!!"

I think exploding at people is just as much being "sensitive" as it is to be hurt be an ill-concieved choice of words.  Instead of getting back a rational response to help smooth things out, what returned was a very reactionary comment that I felt was not helpful.

Ceaser, if you're still there (and I hope you are, because I don't want another Cakebelly incident, I didn't even want the first), I'm sorry if I riled you, but you accuse me of being sensitive for looking out for the potential feelings of others, maybe you shouldn't be so sensitive to things like topic locking and other people's way of being dude.

We both crossed the line, maybe, and I don't want to anger people, but I don't expect to, because we're all dudes here.  It was wrong of me to suggest you were bullying, but I didn't intend to imply that you were, I was trying to highlight how the wording of that joke looked and came across, and I guess I failed, and for that I'm sorry.

If I lit a spark, I hold my hands up and apologise, it was certainly not on purpose, and I was certainly not expecting you to take it to heart so much.  We're both sensitive/insensitive pricks... we're humans

[Busmum]

JOKE ALERT:

i don't know dude... it smells like testosterone in here...



... which i thought was hilariously funny a few minutes ago, so please male-dudes, don't take offense  i'm attempting to diffuse, via humor 

[Rev. Ed C]

JOKE ALERT:

i don't know dude... it smells like testosterone in here...



... which i thought was hilariously funny a few minutes ago, so please male-dudes, don't take offense  i'm attempting to diffuse, via humor 

*sniff sniff*  Well, it's not me.  My testosterone levels are sub-par at the best of times.  I'm about as wimpy as a man can get

That's what you get from being a vegetarian since birth, a lack of bestial hormones and super-market chemeicals

[Busmum]

JOKE ALERT:

i don't know dude... it smells like testosterone in here...



... which i thought was hilariously funny a few minutes ago, so please male-dudes, don't take offense  i'm attempting to diffuse, via humor 

*sniff sniff*  Well, it's not me.  My testosterone levels are sub-par at the best of times.  I'm about as wimpy as a man can get

That's what you get from being a vegetarian since birth, a lack of bestial hormones and super-market chemeicals

oh come now dude... that lovely beard din't come from nowheres... 

[Rev. Ed C]

oh come now dude... that lovely beard din't come from nowheres... 

It came from patience, respect for my hair and a spiritual connection with my body.

Hair is like a waterfall, always cascading, neverending, only in slow motion.  Of course, one day your river might dry up, and as I never know when that might be, I'm trying to enjoy my hair before nature damns up my follicles

[Busmum]

Folliculee, folliculi?   

[Rev. Ed C]

Folliculee, folliculi?   

The occasional Dead Poets Society flashback...   

[Hominid]

This topic is a hoot. Parts anyways... I like yer style Rev. Ed - an I didn't smell any male whoremoans either... just some friendly chit chat.

What was the topic again?