Thank you Milnie for your words and thoughts...I know you're busy right now!

DB...cheers mate you are so right...it's what I need I few beers a few laughs...my trouibles won't be over but maybe I could lighten the fuck up for a while?

I've got 4 things I've been in invited to this weekend. A bbq with about 12 girls and three males. A night out with some fire show circus girly performers, a night of smoking some ganja with my ex neighbours (good people!) or a dinner party with a couple of old friends and some other couples....choices choices!

I normally turn all invitations down but this weekend shall be different. Can we have a poll and see which one will serve me best!?

Peace dudes and thanks....

You truly are an inspiration dude - your patience and love know no bounds. The world's a better place with you in it!!!

There's no telling why life brings us the things it does, but my fondest hope is that it also brings you that miracle you're looking for.

For what it's worth, I've talked with friends who've been in that long sleep and they say that they were often aware on some level of things going on around them, but had no awareness of the passing of time so they didn't know if this thing and that had meaning or were connected somehow. It seems important to just be there. No matter where you are on the journey or where it leads, it's always best to have someone along.

Remember to take care of you, too, man. When the weight of the world is on your shoulders, you can't afford to become exhausted and drop the thing. It's better to set it down gently from time to time so you can regain your strength.

The three of you are in this Dude's thoughts, man.

Well Caesar Dude, I've been on here a wee while but only just found this thread and read it through. It's all awful what's happened and is happening, but what does shine through is you caring for and watching over her day in day out... Don't forget to care for yourself, as you both need you too.
                             Good vibes to you both and keep abiding dude...

Thank you Easy Dude and Chaplain K.

Your comments, good wishes and prayers are very welcome and well received.

Thank you for taking the time to read the thread all way through, it's a raw account and I think I would struggle taking it all in!

So as I'm here. An update!

Chantelle has become much more vocal recently, however she has also had several chest infections, (I'm sure I've mentioned this before but this is what kills most people in her condition!)

Being more vocal, moaning to be fair, could be a reaction to pain or discomfort. It's still good though as it shows a reaction which hasn't been happening before! It distresses me and her parents though as I'm sure you can imagine!

I do seem to be able to hold mumbling "conversations" with her though. I say "I love you" she mumbles mmm mmm mmm! Hey I'll take that!

There's a dude on here who is coming to visit in few weeks and going to try some sound therapy with her. I've had a personal experience with an Australian Aborigine and a didgeridoo which calmed me down a bit for sure! So I'm looking forward to the experience.

Today we were told that Chantelle has been allowed another year in the care home.....lots of red tape and government crap you know!? So that's a victory in itself.

I tell her everyday she is safe and now at least she is for at least one more year.

Once again I want to say thank you to all of you dudes who say prayers, light candles. or even just hold a thought for us. It keeps me strong and makes life a little bit easier for me, knowing that there others out there who don't know us but are bowling for us.

Thank you all dudes.

Peace.

We're here for you; that's what Dudes do for fellow Dudes. My prayers continue to go out to you and your lady.