The "outside of government," as you state, is the important part. Clearly governments have totally and tragically failed humanity. They are not the solution, they are in fact the problem. I personally believe that dudemanity, the human race, will eventually evolve to a point where government is no longer needed and the people of the future will rid themselves of government having progressed beyond the point of needing government. This will be a fundamental change in global society, and a welcome one.
That's an inner-estin' point of debate. Although I'm sympathetic to the libertarian point of view, I think it only works if we do a hell of a lot of evolving. Libertarianism falls prey to the same problems that statism does. Corruption and selfishness spoil it all.
Capitalism and Communism are much the same, they both work in theory, but fall down when the human element rears it's ugly spanner-shaped head.
Hence, why in Dudeism, I think our most important work is in ironing out the flaws of humanity. Greed, impatience, selfishness, dishonesty, hatred, disinterest and the like, the things that sour the milk of governance, be it one of governmental structure or one of cohesive community.
I don't care if we're an open community who works tightly together or a massive state that supports and nurtures. As long as there's honesty, compassion, empathy and transparency. It's the hidden rules and information that's the problem, and the lack of care and attention that lets people fall through the cracks. Even a libertarian community can shun and ignore the problems of the few if they're not looking in the right direction.
Most American libertarians, that I've noticed, want to be free of the government for the wrong reasons and would form a harmful community, in my opinion. The ideal is good, but the hand that puts it into practise is flawed, much like capitalist governments and communist regimes of notable failing. But yet, people like yourself, and other dudely types help give hope to such ideals.
I believe that the systems are not at fault, it's the people who run them and the state of society and humanity in general. So, cometh the dudes, cometh the spiritual evolution of humanity and society