hello,

briefly i will graduate soon with a bachelor's in poli sci...

i am a cool nice person, laid back etc.

im 25 and still live with my parents and have always had trouble with girls.  im not ugly, in fact many girls approach me but i always get turned down by the girls i like.  people keep saying stop being nice, be an asshole, but thats not me, but at the same time, its getting really frustrating... i havent gotten laid in a few years and only about 7 times my whole life...

anyways, i feel like there is this spell on me with women...

advice?

i dont care about money or a big time job.  in fact i love living at home and when my per diem runs out i just want to make pizza and read books and smoke pot...

i am a dude, but the girl thing is getting a little annoying...  it would be nice to have a gf... just sayin...

First of all; welcome to our humble beach community, MDP, good to have you here, dude. Bar's over there.

As far female forms are concerned; I would point out that like anything else in life, its a numbers game; the more you try the closer you are to success. Or, like one dude said; "the harder I work, the luckier I get." Successful dudes fail more than they succeed, its just that you only see the successes like a dude hanging out with his hot looking lady friend he is helping conceive, man. You don't see the 100 female forms he was turned down by before scoring, dude.

It's all numbers. Hang in there, dude; the right female form will come by soon enough. In the meantime, get out and start working the numbers. Go bowling, hit the family restaurant, drive around and enjoy some Creedence!

IMHO.

Lower your standards and work yer way up.
Decent poon is still pretty great. It's like pizza that way.

@ BikerDude and cckeiser.......

This is all good advice dudes; some dudely like wisdom here.

does it matter if you live at home and want to make pizza and just hang out?  why do people think that is bad?  

Hey dude and welcome.

I've always had trouble with girls too....

But not in the same way dude.

I've always had girls around usually more than one at a time...even though I was probably meant to just be paying attention to one special lady friend. To me they were all special lady friends and I treated them all in the same way....paying attention to them all as individuals...being attentive to their individual needs and most of all respecting them for who they were.

I settled down eventually!

You are treating women as objects man...you are trying too hard to get laid instead of trying really hard to understand what makes them tick.

Ladies are smarter than you and me both dude and can see straight your desperation.

You have to listen to them ... really listen...then respond in kind ie if they talk about loving anime cartoons and you know nothing about that...don't pretend you do but do some research...then next time you meet tell them you checked out whichever cartoon they referred to...then give them your opinion...don't lie..they'll see through that too! They will appreciate your efforts.

Your sense of humour is your greatest sex appeal to most girls especially if you can poke fun at yourself...don't overdo it though!

IMDO most girls are up for a laugh and a joke and a bit of banter...as a wiser fellow than me just said

Next advice...treat them all like dudes.

You have no pressure when you meet a guy dude who you get on with...you're not trying to get them into bed. So you relax and you are funny and cute and mad and can show your intelligent side. You can get a bit drunk and a bit foolish and agree to meet up again. If you do then it might begin a great new friendship.

Same with the ladies dude although there should always be a flirtatious element to any encounter with the female form. Remember this one gem. The biggest erogenous zone on a woman is her brain. Tease, flirt be outrageous when it's appropriate, let her know you're interested but not THAT interested. Text her occasionally....ignore her texts occasionally....don't respond immediately every time she calls....play the game dude...and try and learn some rules.

The rules change every time you play the game though but every woman knows them all....you will never know them all and you will never know the order in which a woman wants them played.

We're always at a disadvantage when it comes to the female form. They are beautiful and amazing and have bodies which we dream to play with.... we are men...and most of us aren't beautiful and don't have athletic bodies.

Be cool dude.

Peace.